Presentation on theme: "Why People Have Children Life Experiences Your personal feelings and experiences with children Expression of Love The desire to have children stems."— Presentation transcript:
Why People Have Children Life Experiences Your personal feelings and experiences with children Expression of Love The desire to have children stems from the love between two adults Desire for Family Life – Style Other People’s Expectations Pressure from the couple’s parents Appeal of children Many people are more spontaneous around children. They want this joy in their everyday lives
Why People Have Children Economic Asset In developing countries, children are work and money sources Some people want someone to take care of them when they become elderly Curiosity What will my child be like? What type of parent will I be?
Why People Don’t Have Kids Long Term Goals Will having a child limit what I want for my future ? Will I be able to travel? Continue my education? Freedom I won’t be able to go out like I do now Personal Experiences My childhood wasn’t good I can’t see myself as a parent Fears What will I look like after the pregnancy? Complications? How can I manage a kid, work and home?
When Are You Ready? Level of Maturity The condition in which a person’s body is fully developed and he/she thinks and acts reasonably, responsibly, reliably and independently How well are you able to manage your life and various responsibilities?
When Are You Ready? Stability of Relationship You have a meaningful relationship with your significant other Sure of your commitment Children benefit from parents in a happy and stable marriage
When Are You Ready? Physical Health Well-nourished Not involved in risky behaviors Free of diseases Is the mother’s body healthy enough to support a fetus? Best age is between 18 and 34 Mental Health Recognize realities of parenthood Emotional Health High self-esteem Give love without expecting it back Control reactions to emotions Ability to express worry and doubt
When Are You Ready? Social Considerations Social activities will change after you have a baby Activities often become “child- centered” Family closeness Financial Considerations Money for medical costs during pregnancy and birth Adequate place to live Room for child and equipment Save money
When Are You Ready? Career Plans What kind of job should I get? How will the child fit into work? Will I have to travel? What hours will I work? What will I do when the baby is born? Goals Long term goals Education Career Financial Do we both want kids? If so, how many?
Decision Making Process 1. Identify the Problem Should we have a child? 2. Identify Alternatives a. Try to conceive immediately b. Delay pregnancy c. Do not have a child 3. Analyze Consequences a. having a child changes your life b. Difficulty conceiving later on c. not experience the reward of parenting 4. Make the Decision *Prioritize your goals 5. Evaluate Results *How did this work out for us? *Can we change our minds later on?