2Parent One who gives birth to a child One who nurtures and cares for a childA guardian or protector
3Activity On a sheet of paper please list some GOOD traits of parents In a second column, list some BAD traits of parents
4The choice to be a Parent Parenting is a full time jobMany parents choose to have children for the many rewards it bringsLoveNew experiencesChildren bring enthusiasm to life
5Responsibilities How does having a child change a couple’s life? What areas of their life have to be in order before they should consider having a child?
6Physical Needs Providing food, shelter, clothing and medical care This may involve taking classes or working extra hoursMeeting physical needs takes time as wellGrocery shopping, laundry, doctor’s appointments
7Intellectual Needs Parents need to help children learn Parent should provide:Educational tools like toysChallenged to develop intellectHelp and tutoring during the school years
8Social NeedsParents teach children to communicate, share, and get along with othersWhat social etiquette did your parents teach you?
9Emotional Needs Parents guide children in developing healthy emotions Parents need to teach children that emotions are not a negative thing, but that they can affect decision makingA parent’s love should be constant and UNCONDITIONALParents need to show love openly, so that children understand how to show others that they love them
10Values You learn values from your parents Values are standards that guide your actionsWhat values have you learned from your parents?
11Self-EsteemSelf esteem is liking yourself and feeling that you are good and worthwhileParents teach children to love themselves no matter what, and help them build their self esteemParents should make children feel important by treating them as much as possible like they would their peersNot interrupting, asking their opinions and allowing them to make choices
12Self EsteemHave you ever felt like someone did not treat you the way you wanted to be treated?Did it affect your self esteem?
13Factors to ConsiderBefore becoming a parent, adults should consider these factors:Are they socially ready?Are they financially ready?Are they in good health?Are they ready for the responsibility?
14Guidance The greatest role a parent will play is a guide for the child Guidance includes all words and actions that a parent uses that may affect the child’s behaviorThis could be positive or negative
15DisciplineDiscipline includes all methods parent use to teach acceptable behaviorThe main concern of discipline is teachingDiscipline should teach the child self control, teaching limits, and enforcing the limits
16Punishment Punishment differs from discipline in one major way: Punishment is a consequence for unwanted behavior that isn’t motivated by teaching, but by fear, humiliation, or powerPunishment is not an effective way to parent because it lacks the key factor in guiding children:It does not teach them to learn self control or make their own choices
17ExampleA Child is told many times to keep their glass away from the edge of the table. The child continues to put their glass on the edge and knocks it over with their arm.To discipline this action, a parent could tell the child they must clean it up themselves so that they learn that their choice led to them having to clean it upTo punish this action, the parent might pull the child out of the chair and spank them or tell them they must leave the table and cannot have more dinner.
18ExampleA teenage that is able to drive takes their mom’s car without permission and gets into a minor fender bender.To discipline this action, a parent might have the teenage pay for part or all of the repairs by getting a job or doing chores around the house so that they learn that their action had a financial consequenceTo punish this action, a parent might make the teenager stand on the street with an embarrassing sign
19Parenting Styles There are three types of parenting styles These styles are defined by the type of guidance givenThey are:AuthoritarianAuthoritativePermissive
20AuthoritarianAuthoritarian parenting is like a government run by a dictator- there is a person in charge and everyone else has to fall in line without asking questionsAuthoritarian parents are extremely strict and unyieldingThey will not allow for the children to have an opinion or say in how they will be raised
21ExampleA child tends to be a just a little messy. An Authoritarian parent would demand that the child’s room look a certain way with no exceptions. They would not allow personalization that fell outside of their preferences. If the parent came in to a messy room, they would yell and empty out all of the drawers and make the child refold everything until it was perfect.
22DisadvantagesThe disadvantage to Authoritarian parenting is that usually punishment, not discipline, is usedChildren grow up being forced to everything according to their parent’s wishes and do not learn to express themselves or have healthy emotionsThe parents will use fear and humiliation to keep children in lineChildren will learn that they don’t have the right to their own opinion
23AdvantagesThere are no real advantages since the children will only comply out of fear or threat of humiliation or punishment
24AuthoritativeAuthoritative parents are similar to a government run by a democracyEveryone has a say and even though some members of the family have more power than others, everyone has an opinion and is open to speaking itAuthoritative parents use discipline to teach and guide
25ExampleA teenager is getting older and thinks that their curfew is too early. They would be able to talk to their parents about it, and would not be punished for wanted to change the rules. The parents would consider and come to a decision that takes the teenagers opinion into account.
26Advantages Advantages of Authoritative parenting include: The child learns self esteem from having a voiceThere is still structure and guidance since the parents have the final sayDiscipline is used instead of punishmentChildren learn early on how to resolve conflict effectively
28Permissive Parenting Permissive parenting is similar to anarchy There is no structure, no rules, and very little guidance from parentsParents appear more like friends than adults in chargeChildren will make all of their own decisions and parents will not argue with it
29ExampleTeenager wants to get her nose pierced even though it’s against school rules. The parent would allow the piercing and then when the teenager got in trouble at school, the parent would talk to the teenager about how unfair it all is and attempt to be their friend instead of teaching them how to follow rules.
30DisadvantagesChildren thrive from structure, and will feel insecure in this environmentChildren are not capable of making adult decisions and will suffer more natural consequencesWhen the parent attempts to be a friend, they are not there when the child needs actual guidanceChildren may put themselves into dangerous situations
31AdvantagesChildren will have some sense of their own importance, although it will be skewed due to no structure
32ActivityWhich parenting style would you use and why?