2General Objective: Increase the awareness of parenting strategies Enhance parents’ negotiation skills
3BECOMING A COMPETENT ADULT IntroductionThe goal of parenting?Kidsare able to look after themselvesenjoy lifemake those around them happyare caring and kindstand up for what they believe inlearn self-controland finally….BECOMING A COMPETENT ADULT
4What is one thing that your parents have done to guide you toward the goal of becoming a competent adult?
5Parenting StylesAuthoritative parents are warm but firm and consistent.Set developmentally appropriate limitsSet reasonable standards, moderate on disciplineHigh in communication and emotional supportEncourages independency and individualityAllow choices, give alternativesUse reasoning, negotiation and compromiseTheir children are independent, socially responsibleand less influenced by negative peer pressure.
6Authoritarian - Strict Authoritarian parents show less affection.Value obedience, respectRules are non-negotiable, do not allow reasonable choicesDiscourage independency and individualityExercise physical punishmentTheir children are greatly influenced by peer pressure, are passive or rebelling against parents’ values. They have lowerself-esteem.
7Permissive Permissive parents are warm but undemanding. They are passive in their parenting.Very low on discipline, structure and expectation. Sets no guidelines.They do not like to say no or disappoint their children.They believe that demonstrate their love is to give in to their children’s wishes.Their children may have difficulty with self-control, demonstrate egocentric tendencies, manipulative behaviour.These children are the unhappiest of all (anxiety,depression). Likely to engage in antisocial behaviour.As they have not been taught how to control or disciplinethemselves, they are less likely to develop self-respect.
8Permissive - Uninvolved Uninvolved parents are not warm, do not place any demands.They minimize their interaction time.Generally do not want to be bothered by their children.Their children show similar patterns as children raised in permissive homes(impulsive behaviour, issues with self-regulation).
9Questions:Describe the time when you witnessed a parenting technique you felt was very effective (or describe your own).Can you think of a time when you encountered an example of ineffective parenting?
10No.1 No one can be a perfect parent Parenting StrategiesDNo.1 No one can be a perfect parentDo you know your strengths and weaknesses?
11No.3 Communicate, explain, discuss… No.2 Back each other upNo.3 Communicate, explain, discuss…
12No.4 Make and negotiate rules and limits No.5 Let them learn natural and logical consequences
13No. 7 Praise, praise, praise (and sometimes ignore) No.6 Be consistentNo. 7 Praise, praise, praise (and sometimes ignore)
14What do you praise your child most for ? Things you praise your child for tell them a lot about what you believe is important in live.
15Problem, Conflict, Disagreement…? Use No-Lose Method!
17Problem to Solution in 5 Steps Identify the conflict (and people’s feelings)Generate possible solutions (What will that do for me?)Decide on the best solution (which provides the best balance for everyone)Implement the decisionEvaluate how it worked