1. Welcome To Coram Deo

2. Next Cross Talk October 13 th @ Nicotra Home New phone # 909-204-2220

3. Overview Ephesians 5:21-6:9

4. Setting the Context Walking worthy of the calling (4:1) Walking no longer as Gentiles (4:17) Walking in love (5:1) Walking in the Light (5:8) Walking in wisdom (5:15)

5. Walking in Wisdom Not being foolish, but understanding the will of the Lord (5:17) Not getting drunk with wine, but being filled with the Spirit (5:18)

6. Spirit Filled Speaking to each other in Psalms… (19) Singing and making melody to the Lord…(19) Giving thanks to God the Father always and for all things (20) Being subject to one another in the fear of Christ (21)

7. The Flow of Thought Walk Worthy (4:1) –Walk in Wisdom (5:15) understanding the will of the Lord (5:17) being filled with the Spirit (5:18) –Subjecting to one another in the fear of Christ (5:21) Examples of subjecting to one another (3 relationships)

8. Three Subjecting Relationships Wives and Husbands (5:22-33) Children and Parents (6:1-4) Slaves and Masters (6:5-9)

9. Observations In each of the three relationships, the group who is to subject themselves is addressed first Subjection to one another in the fear of Christ controls the thought of 5:22-6:9 – (Mutual submission / humility) –Submission implies that one is willing to submit to those who have authority, whether it be in the home, church, or in society –“The fear of Christ” means that the believer who is spirit-filled submits to others out of fear or reverence for Christ. Submission to others is submission to Christ.

10. Household Codes Mentioned in several places –Eph. 5:22-6:9 –Col. 3:18-4:1 –1 Pet. 2:18-3:7 –1 Tim. 2:8-15; 6:1-10 –Titus 2:1-10

11. Background The form of the Ephesian household code appears patriarchal or hierarchical in structure In early Greek and Roman households, the patriarchal structure, the male head, had extensive authority over the wife, children, and slaves (he could execute for disobedience or disrespect)

12. Background: Continued By NT times most marriages took place sine manus (without power transferred from the wife’s father to the husband) so that women exercised a greater degree of independence from their husbands. The wife’s father remained head. He could even initiate a divorce from the husband of his daughter. Jewish and especially Hellenistic households followed suit in this model Paul’s injunctions do not suggest misogyny or sweeping powers of the male head More space is given to exhortations for the husband than the wife

13. Summary The Ephesian household code was for the purpose of fostering unity in that community of Asia Minor. Specific groups of believers are addressed regarding their responsibilities to other groups who may or may not have been believers. The believers were to carry out their responsibilities as to the Lord in the power of the Holy Spirit

14. Ephesian Household Codes VerseAddressImperativeAmplificationMotivation 5:22-24WivesSubmit to husbands As to the LordHusband is head of the wife as Christ is head of the church 5:25-33HusbandsLove wivesAs their own bodyChrist gave himself for the church 6:1-3ChildrenObey parentsIn the LordCommand to honor parents and promise of a long life 6:4FathersProvoke not children But nurtureIn discipline and admonition of the Lord 6:5-8SlavesObey mastersAs to ChristLord will reward 6:9MastersDo right by slavesForebear threatsLord will judge

15. Next Week The Role of the Wives

16. Command (22) Cause (23) Illustration (24)

17. The Command (22)

18. Submission Submitting to “one another” is not always reciprocal (everyone to everyone). In this context it means subjecting to those whom God has placed in authority over you. The three examples in the text are primarily addressing the subjection of wives, children, and slaves, to those whom God has placed in authority over them.

19. Subjection: What it is not The verb employed for a wife’s subjection to her own husband is different than that of children and slaves subjecting to parents and masters –u`pota,ssw ( hupotassō ) vs. u`pakou,w ( hupakouō ) Hupotassō = willing subordination to those placed in authority – the wife is to willingly be subject to her own husband’s leadership as he has been placed in authority by God’s design Hupakouō = hearing w/obedience – slaves and children are supposed to obey their parents and master’s respectively

20. Insight “The wife is not commanded to obey (hupakouō) her husband, as children are to obey their parents and slaves their masters (6:1, 5). A husband is not to treat his wife as a servant or as a child, but as an equal for whom God has given him care and responsibility for provision and protection, to be exercised in love. She is not his to order about, responding to his every wish and command. As Paul proceeds to explain in considerable detail (vv. 25-33), the husband’s primary responsibility as head of the household is to love, provide, protect, and serve his wife and family – not to lord it over them according to his personal whims and desires.” – John MacArthur

21. Result of the Fall? Is wifely subjection to her husband a consequence of the fall?

22. The “S” word Literally “The wives to the own husbands, as to the Lord” – The verb “submit” is supplied from v. 21 Hupotassō = willing subordination to those placed in authority – the wife is to willingly be subject to her own husband’s leadership – “as to the Lord” - as she submits, she is obeying the Lord. Not, “obey him as she would the Lord” (see Col. 3:18) The constraint is for the wife to willingly subject herself to her husbands leadership, love, and protection (middle verb). The command is not for the husband to make her subject, but for her to willingly submit herself to his authority –Example - pastors and congregants The command for the wife to subject is not dependant upon the leadership style or abilities of the husband

23. Imperative vs. Indicative The husband is the head of the wife, the wife does not make him head “Head” in the context of the letter –Two possibilities Rule