1. Preventative Interventions that Increase Student Cooperation and Compliance CSS Conference Presentation 2013-2014 Ba Pam Hart, Educational Consultant Region 18 ESC

2. Putting Your Best Feet Forward!

3. The Story of Eric

4. POSITIVE TALK  “I” Statements  Using contingencies  Eliciting vs. Imposing consequences  Help kids “visualize” positives  “Empathy” is the foundation of emotional intelligence.  “Hope” Building

5. The Compliance Burger Bun- Start with a positive statement Cheese- Point out current, unexpected behavior Meat- State expected behavior 'Let-Us'- Give prompt followed by space and tim Bun- Return and praise expected behavior Bun- "Thanks for sitting quietly!" Cheese- "I see you are still reading your book." Meat- "Right now the class is working on math." 'Let-Us'- "Make a good choice to get your math out, and I will check back with you." Bun- "I see you have your math out... Great choice! Are you going to start on the front or back?"

6. CHOICE  Everyone (adults too) prefer choices!  Many, frequent choices =empowerment Practice using these short phrases: Would you rather ____ or ____? What would be best for you, ___ or ___? Feel free to ___ or ___. What would help you the most, ___ or ___? _Teaching With Love & Logic by Jim Faye

7. CONTROL Can you control another human being?  Asking vs. telling  Key words to use for reflective questioning: WHAT WHEN WHERE HOW  STAY AWAY FROM… WHY! Dr. Marvin Marshall Discipline Without Stress, Punishments, or Rewards _by Dr. Marvin Marshall

8. REFLECTIVE QUESTIONING  For Changing Behavior  For Getting on Task  For Commitment  For Improving Quality  For Complaining  For Starting Conversations Discipline Without Stress, Punishments, or Rewards By Dr. Marvin Marshall Dr. Marshall’s Coaching “Stems” for Changing the Way We Talk (Handout)

9. Changing the Way We Talk Move from: I’ll try I might I’d like to There isn’t time I don’t think that will work But I’ll think about it Move to: I will I promise I commit to Let’s find time I wonder how that can work Yes, and I will resolve to Dr. Marvin Marshall Discipline Without Stress, Punishments, or Rewards

10. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0REJ-lCGiKU Enthusiasm and Passion

11. SELF TALK Life is a conversation… Interestingly, the most influential person we talk to all day is our self. And, what we tell our self has a direct bearing on our behavior, our performance, and our influence on others. phart@esc18.net From Dr. Marvin Marshall’s book: Discipline Without Stress, Punishments, or Rewards www.aboutdiscipline.com

12. This little guy is willing to try anything…for the cheese!