1. Cyber Bullying
Welcome to our Parent Power night. I hope you will find the evening helpful and informative.
Mrs. Fleming is very proactive and very much against bullying, so as soon as she heard of a student at Mount Lebanon having a problem with cyber bullying we got together and planned this presentation. I have no real first hand knowledge of this. My children came along before this was an issue. I do know from them that Face book and My Space should be areas of concern for all parents.

2. Cyber Bullying
“What makes cyber bullying so dangerous…is that anyone can practice it without having to confront the victim. You don’t have to be strong or fast, simply equipped with a cell phone or a computer and a willingness to terrorize.” (King, 2006)
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“What makes cyber bullying so dangerous…
is that anyone can practice it
without having to confront the victim.
You don’t have to be strong or fast,
simply equipped with a cell phone or a computer and a willingness to terrorize” (King, 2006)

3. Cyber Bullying Is Bullying…
Through
Instant messaging
In a chat room
On a website
Through digital messages or images sent to a cell phone
Through
Instant messaging
In a chat room
On a website
Through digital messages or images sent to a cell phone

4. Direct and Indirect
Direct cyber bullying is messages directly to others, usually children or youth
Cyber bullying by proxy (indirect cyber bullying) is using others to help cyber bully a victim, with or without the accomplice’s consent
Direct cyber bullying is messages directly to others, usually children or youth
Cyber bullying by proxy (indirect cyber bullying) is using others to help cyber bully a victim, with or with out the accomplice’s consent.
Cyberbullying by proxy is when a cyberbully gets someone else to do their dirty work. Most of the time they are unwitting accomplices and don't know that they are being used by the cyberbully. Cyberbullying by proxy is the most dangerous kind of cyberbullying because it often gets adults involve in the harassment and people who don't know they are dealing with a kid or someone they know .

5. Types of Cyber Bullying
Flaming and flame wars- online “fights” using angry, vulgar language
Harassment – repeatedly sending offensive, rude, and insulting messages
Denigration – posting information about another that is derogatory and untrue
Flaming and flame wars- online “fights” using angry, vulgar language
Harassment – repeatedly sending offensive, rude, and insulting messages
Denigration – posting information about another that is derogatory and untrue
Impersonation – breaking into an account and sending vicious and embarrassing materials to others

6. Types of Cyber Bullying
Impersonation – breaking into an account and sending vicious and embarrassing materials to others
Outing and trickery – sharing someone’s secrets or embarrassing information, or tricking someone into revealing such and forwarding it
Exclusion/Ostracism – blocking someone from buddy lists, chat rooms, etc.
Impersonation – breaking into an account and sending vicious and embarrassing materials to others
Outing and trickery – sharing someone’s secrets or embarrassing information, or tricking someone into revealing such and forwarding it
Exclusion/Ostracism – blocking someone from buddy lists, chat rooms, etc.

7. Types of Cyber Bullying
Cyber stalking – repeatedly sending a messages that include threats of harm or of intimidating, or engaging in other online activities that make someone fear for their safety
Happy slapping – slapping someone usually a stranger, recording it, and posting the image online
Cyber stalking – repeatedly sending a messages that include threats of harm or of intimidating, or engaging in other online activities that make someone fear for their safety
Happy slapping – slapping someone usually a stranger, recording it, and posting the image online
Happy slapping, a fairly new method of bullying, targets unsuspecting victims by capturing these crimes on video or cellphones and uploading them online.
Imagine, waiting for the bus, minding ones own business, and without warning or provocation, a perfect stranger walks up and slaps a person in the face. It’s called “happy slapping” and it has become a disturbing new trend.

8. Traditional Bullying versus Cyber Bullying
Both
Aggressiveness
Power imbalance
Repetitiveness
Cyber Bullying
Anonymous
Accessibility
No Punitive Fears
Bystanders
Disinhibition
Anonymous - Cyber bullies can pick on anyone, even those more confident and popular than themselves. Cyber bullies can even pick on children older and bigger than them because of the anonymous nature of the internet. If a cyber bully wants to hurt another person, the internet gives them the perfect vehicle to do so.
Accessibility –Over 97% of adolescents use the internet, with over half of these using the internet each day
75% of online teenagers use IM, 48% daily
45% of adolescents have cell phones: 33% communicate via text messaging young girls more likely to be online than boys and more likely to IM
Bystanders – messages and images can be distributed quickly to a very wide audience.
Girls are twice as likely as boys to be cyber bullies as well as be targeted by cyber bullies. Boys tend to physically bully others while girls use emotional methods, which can be perfectly carried out over the computer. Many children who are the victims of cyber bullying never know who is bullying them. Cyber bullying is not restricted to school either, it can happen anywhere children have access to computers or cell phones. Bullying used to be confined to school, but with cyber bullying can now reach children anywhere

9. What can a parent do?
Keep your home computer(s) in easily viewable places, such as a family room or kitchen
Talk regularly with your child about on-line activities he or she is involved in.
Talk specifically about cyber bullying
Encourage your child to tell you if he or she is aware of others who may be the victims of such behavior
Explain that cyber bullying is harmful and unacceptable behavior 
Talk specifically about cyber bullying and encourage your child to tell you immediately if he or she is the victim of cyber bullying, cyberstalking, or other illegal or troublesome on-line behavior. 
Explain that cyber bullying is harmful and unacceptable behavior.  Outline your expectations for responsible online behavior and make it clear that there will be consequences for inappropriate behavior.

10. What can a parent do?
Tell your child that you may review his or her on-line communications if you think there is reason for concern
Consider installing parental control filtering software and/or tracking programs, but don’t rely solely on these tools
Learn and teach your child “Netiquette”
Although adults must respect the privacy of children and youth, concerns for your child’s safety may sometimes override these privacy concerns. .

11. Steps To Stop A Cyber Bully
Block future contact from the cyber bully
Contact your child’s school
Consider contacting the cyber bully’s parents
Present proof of the cyber bullying (e.g., copies of an message) and ask them to make sure the cyber bullying stops
If the cyber bullying is coming through or a cell phone, it may be possible to block future contact from the cyberbully. Of course, the cyberbully may assume a different identity and continue the bullying.
Contact your school. If the cyber bullying is occurring through your school district’s Internet system, school administrators have an obligation to intervene. Even if the cyber bullying is occurring off campus, make your school administrators aware of the problem. They may be able to help you resolve the cyber bullying or be watchful for face-to-face bullying.
Consider contacting the cyberbully’s parents. These parents may be very concerned to learn that their child has been cyber bullying others, and they may effectively put a stop to the bullying.  On the other hand, these parents may react very badly to your contacting them. So, proceed cautiously. If you decide to contact a cyberbully’s parents, communicate with them in writing — not face-to-face. Present proof of the cyber bullying (e.g., copies of an message) and ask them to make sure the cyber bullying stops.

12. Steps To Stop A Cyber Bully
Consider contacting an attorney
Contact the police if cyber bullying involves acts such as:
Threats of violence
Extortion
Obscene or harassing phone calls or text messages
Harassment, stalking, or hate crimes
Child pornography
If you are uncertain if cyber bullying violates your jurisdiction’s criminal laws, contact your local police, who will advise you.
Sending inappropriate language may violate the “Terms and Conditions” of services, Internet Service Providers, web sites, and cell phone companies. Consider contacting these providers and filing a complaint.
If the cyber bullying is coming through or a cell phone, it may be possible to block future contact from the cyberbully. Of course, the cyberbully may assume a different identity and continue the bullying.
Consider contacting an attorney in cases of serious cyber bullying. In some circumstances, civil law permits victims to sue a bully or his or her parents in order to recover damages.
Contact the police if cyber bullying involves acts such as:
Threats of violence
Extortion
Obscene or harassing phone calls or text messages
Harassment, stalking, or hate crimes
Child pornography
If you are uncertain if cyber bullying violates your jurisdiction’s criminal laws, contact your local police, who will advise you.

13. For Parenting Online Booklet go to this web site: http://wiredkids
For Parenting Online Booklet go to this web site: You will be able to read and download the booklet.

14. Internet Resources http://www.wiredsafety.org/