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4. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Understand process of adjustment What we believe Coping styles Role of others / rehab Normalization Why This Session?

5. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org...or you get to better understand it. Speaking to Those Dealing with Recent Disability

6. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Recovery Adjust to your present reality. Being at your best possible.

7. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Not Adjustment Does Not Mean Giving Up

8. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org...or at least really slows the process. Believing You Can’t Guarantees You Won’t

9. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Beginner’s Mind

10. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Not Easy

11. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Social Messages Stereotypes do not fit reality.

12. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Stereotypes Pity.Dependent.Tragic / Heroic.

13. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org You don’t need to be super!

14. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Language Confined.Bound.Overcome.

15. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Can’t Know Transition from void to vision.

16. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org New Vision May or may not involve previous vision.

17. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org There is no pre-defined pace. You Will Do It In Your Own Time

18. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org There is a variety of coping styles. You Will Do It In Your Own Way

19. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org We are built to handle trauma. Coping Styles

20. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Purpose No matter how unpleasant, your coping style is protecting you. Coping Styles

21. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Anger Depression Denial Suicidality Humor Hard Work Sadness Confusion Resistance Hopelessnes s Coping Styles

22. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org You move along it. A Spectrum

23. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org The Dark Side Coping Styles Widely assumed to be mandatory. A reasonable response.

24. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org The Bright Side Denial wards off emotion. Coping Styles Fake it ‘til you make it.

25. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Letting Go They are for the initial stage only.They can cause serious problems. Coping Styles

26. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Doesn’t overrun Healthy Allow others to Not in our culture Grieving

27. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Spiritual Belief...should support and empower you.

28. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Stage of Life Not necessarily better or worse.

29. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Something to Gain Adapting to disability deepens you.

30. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Normalize At first, your pre-disability self prevails.

31. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Integration Your disability becomes a part of you.

32. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Showing Up Your disability disappears.

33. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Relationships They might change, they might end.There will be new ones.

34. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Adjustment is a Shared Process Family.Friends.Partners. They need to grieve, too.

35. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Family Finding the boundary.Parents resume protective role.Who’s in control?Collaboration / Communication Shared Process

36. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Spouse/Partner Shifts the relationship dynamic.Can interfere with intimacy.Committed partners work it out. Shared Process

37. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Friends You find out who’s really your friend. Shared Process May exaggerate their fear of impact.May just not know what to do.

38. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Who Is In Control? Communication.Respect.

39. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Rehab Crucial to the process of adjustment.

40. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Rehab Unveiling your possibilities Optimizing your health Achieving independence Gaining mastery

41. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Rehab The process needs to continue Not at your optimal yet Advocate for yourself Length Of Stay

42. With Gary Karp.com www.paralysis.org Stay With the Process …and be willing to be surprised.

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