1. Guide to Healthy Relationships Lesson 1 Establishing Self-Worth is Key! Before entering into a relationship, you should DECIDE, not SLIDE into it. 1 st step is to define the types of initial relationship systems: Courtship vs. Dating

2. Self Worth What role does it play in forming a healthy relationship? HUGE: It is the first step of the Love Ladder – Love of Self The belief that you DESERVE to be treated well and that you DESERVE to be in a HEALTHY relationship

3. Knowing Who You Are Another critical component in forming Healthy Relationships – How can you stick to your Values/Beliefs, if you dont know what those are? – How can you let another person get to know the real you, if you dont know who that is? YOU CANT Who Am I Activity

4. You can CHOOSE to DECIDE not SLIDE Many people who end up in an unhealthy relationship ask themselves – Why me? – Why cant I find a GOOD partner – What am I doing wrong? – The answer to these questions could be with based on the idea that they are NOT deciding, but instead sliding.

8. One way to use the Decide Approach Courting – Read History:http://www.boundless.org/relationships/2 007/a-brief-history-of-courtship-and-dating-in- america-part-1 – Describes the idea of the added step of dating, but still considered a courtship Compared to other modern day courting ideas.

9. Compare the Article to this New Approach to Courtship http://www.today.com/moms/duggars-7- rules-courtship-love-air-no-kissing- 2D79464674 http://www.today.com/moms/duggars-7- rules-courtship-love-air-no-kissing- 2D79464674

10. What is Dating? Define the following: – Talking to someone – Texting someone – Going Out with someone – Dating someone – Seeing someone – Hooking up with someone Compare your definitions with the class

11. Dating Confusion Any of your dating definitions not match up with someone else's? – What does that mean in our dating society, if we dont all have the same definitions? – What possible confusion can you see occurring because of this? – Can any of you relate to this confusion?

12. So, what is best. Regardless of if you DECIDE to – DATE – COURT – OTHER TYPE OF ARRANGEMENT MAKE SURE THE RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE IN IS A HEALTHY ONE