8. General tips for raising resilient children The following are some general tips for raising resilient children, divided into the three key areas of caring relationships, high expectations and opportunities for participation.
Caring relationships
Provide unconditional love and emotional support. Demonstrate affection physically and verbally.
Foster self-esteem by recognising and praising achievements and helping children to develop their talents and abilities.
Provide ample time for communication with your child about the day's events, feeling and thoughts. Help children develop a vocabulary for talking about feelings by encouraging them to label their emotions.
Avoid harsh criticism and negative comments.
Demonstrate forgiveness and reconcile after disciplining children.
Provide plenty of time and opportunity for creative play and exploration.
High expectations
Help children to develop their problem-solving skills by assisting them to solve their own problems rather than stepping in with your own solutions.
Teach children social skills and provide feedback about their social interactions.
Recognise your child's capacity for maturity, common sense and learning, and expect them to behave accordingly. Communicate the message that "you have everything you need to succeed."
Provide clear, consistent discipline.
Challenge negative, defeatist thinking and encourage optimism.
Offer plenty of encouragement to help your child persist when confronted by obstacles or difficulties.
Encourage and respect children's autonomy.
Opportunities for participation
Expect children to carry out age-appropriate chores and tasks that contribute to the welfare of the family.
Encourage children to give their time to worthy causes or to helping others. This might range from helping to prepare food for a sick relative to volunteering for a local community tree-planting day.
Provide resources for children to explore their interests.
Involve children in family decision making and rule-setting.
Hold family meetings in which children are encouraged to voice their feelings and thoughts to resolve conflicts and other issues.

10. What measures have we taken as a school so far?
New PSHE scheme in place for all year groups
Regular assemblies reflecting any current issues
Behaviour and discipline policy
New playground equipment bought
Playground Pals scheme
Playground segregation if necessary
Lunchtime club (ICT games, drawing, reading etc)
Worry box
Regular lessons on internet safety including online bullying
Life education caravan every year
Learning Mentor employed by the school
Future Measures:
Youth Sport Trust to come in and train both the Welfare staff and children in playground games.
Peer Mentoring

12. How can you help?
Don’t charge off demanding to see the head teacher, the bully or the bully’s parents. This is usually the very reaction children dread and, according to ChildLine’s counsellors, can cause the child to feel worse.
Simply calmly tell them that they have done the right thing and then come and tell us.
Although it is tempting "Never tell your child to hit or shout names back," says Sandra Hiller from NSPCC. "It simply doesn’t solve the problem and, if your child is under-confident (and most bullied children are) then it just adds to their stress and anxiety.“
Tell them to speak to a member of staff and if they don’t get any joy then tell another adult.
Never dismiss their experience: If your child has plucked up the courage to tell you about bullying, it’s crushing to be told to "sort it out yourself" or "it’s all part of growing up.'. This only teaches them that bullying has to be tolerated, rather than stopped – and sets them up for further bullying in the future.
Please don’t share it on the playground or via Social Media. Talk to us and we will listen and act.

14. Where to get further advice and information?
The first person you should speak to is your child’s class teacher.
If you feel that you need more advice then please contact Mrs Darwin , Mrs Freer or Mrs Caplan.