1. 95 % OF PEOPLE CALL PITY PARTIES

2. 95% FEEL IN SOME WAY INADEQUATE ISOLATED, REJECTED UNLOVED HELPLESS, CANNOT MEASURE UP UNABLE TO RELATE MEANINGFULLY WITH OTHERS INFERIOR

3. THE EFFECTS OF SIN AND GRACE SIN = WE COMPETE GRACE = WE COMPLEMENT SIN = WE ARE EQUAL GRACE = WE ARE DIFFERENT SIN = YOU ARE A THREAT GRACE = YOU ARE NEEDED

4. COMPLEXES – INFERIOR AND SUPERIOR INFERIOR - I AM LESS THAN …… SUPERIOR - I AM MORE THAN ….. BOTH LIVE IN UNREALITY BOTH ARE AFRAID BOTH NEED TO START BEING HONEST AND REAL

5. INFERIORITY STARTS WITH REJECTION, ISOLATION WE ALL DESIRE TO BE ACCEPTED, LOVED, TO BE THOUGHT WELL OF, APPRECIATED, TO BE NEEDED FAILURE LEADS US TO BELIEVE NO BODY LOVES US FEELING REJECTED WE REJECT OURSELVES

6. REJECTION AND ISOLATION THOSE WHO REJECT THEMSELVES RESIST OTHER’S ATTEMPTS TO ACCEPT THEM I MUST START BEING HONEST WITH MYSELF, ABOUT MYSELF 1.SELF-ACCEPTANCE IS THE FIRST STEP TO INTEGRATION AND COMMUNITY 2.SEPARATING MY PERSON FROM MY PERFORMANCE IS ESSENTIAL

7. SELF-ACEPTANCE 1 JOHN 1:5-2:2 WALK IN THE LIGHT = BE REAL AGREE WITH GOD THAT I HAVE A SIN PROBLEM ROMANS 7:25-8:1 LIVE WITH THE FACT THAT I CAN NEVER ON MY OWN MEASURE UP GOD EXPECTS NOTHING BUT FAILURE

8. SELF-ACCEPTANCE GENESIS 2:18 WE WERE NOT DESIGNED TO BE PERFECT ON MY OWN WE ARE INADEQUATE BY CREATION IF I LIVE UNDER LAW [SELF-EFFORT] I AM AIMING AT THE IMPOSSIBLE

9. GOD’S SOLUTION PHILIPPIANS 3:8-10 DISCOVER MYSELF “IN CHRIST”, PARTICIPATING IN A LIFESTYLE, NOT DRIVEN BY SELF- EFFORT, BUT FLOWING FROM CHRIST’S COMMITMENT TO ME GALATIANS 2:20 FREED FROM INDEPENDENT SELF-EFFORT, LIFE IS A PARTNERSHIP CHRIST AND ME IN IT TOGETHER

10. SEPARATING THE PERSON FROM THE PERFORMACE WE FAIL ONE ANOTHER OTHERS CRITICISE ME, BLAME ME THE QUESTION IS – ARE THEY CRITICISING ME [THE PERSON] OR WHAT I HAVE DONE? WHAT IS BEING REJECTED? ME OR MY PERFORMANCE ?

11. EARNING OR ACCEPTING LOVE? AM I TRYING TO EARN LOVE? OR AM I SUBMITTING TO BEING LOVED? IT IS THE NATURE OF GOD TO LOVE IT IS THE NATURE OF HIS SPIRIT-INDWELT PEOPLE TO LOVE UNTIL I ACCEPT MYSELF AS INADEQUATE AND INCAPABLE OF MEASURING UP I CANNOT SUBMIT TO BEING LOVED.

12. A HEALTHY PERSON THE ALTERNATIVE TO A COMPLEX SEE ONESELF AS NEEDED-NEEDY I AM SIMILTANEOUSLY VITALY IMPORTANT AND TOTALLY INADEQUATE NOW I AM ABLE TO OBEY THE LORD’S #1 COMMAND - LOVE ONE ANOTHER