1. Lecture #8 Leadership Jennifer Nichols and Connie Goodbread

2. S-H-I-F-T S-elf differentiated leader leads through presence and functioning not technique and data Presence - being Functioning - doing S-elf differentiated leader leads through presence and functioning not technique and data Presence - being Functioning - doing

3. Parker Palmer - Page 25 “the profoundly opposite truths that my sense of self is deeply dependent on others dancing with me and that I still have a self when no one wants to dance” - The Courage to Teach

4. Pages 28 - 30 Leader’s Notebook - Undifferentiation/Differentiation Contrast - Crucial to the balancing act is a person’s capacity to think clearly, observe, reflect on situations, and base choices and behaviors on principles.

5. Homeostasis The tendency for every system, both physical and emotional, to spring back to its original form

6. Identified Patient The one we blame - can be a person, group or thing.

7. Symptom Bearer The most vulnerable person in the system.

8. Symptom Bearer If the Identified Patient does not take on the anxiety being pushed their way they will not become the Symptom Bearer.

9. Family Field The baggage that we bring to every group that we join from our up bringing.

10. Triangulation The desire to give the anxiety that belongs to you to others. Only complete if accepted. The desire to give the anxiety that belongs to you to others. Only complete if accepted.

11. S-elfdifferentiation H-omeostasis I-dentified Patient F-amily Field T-riangulation S-elfdifferentiation H-omeostasis I-dentified Patient F-amily Field T-riangulation Review

12. Nanny McPhee Watch the movie scene.

13. Servant-Leadership is a practical philosophy which supports people who choose to serve first, and then lead as a way of expanding service to individuals, institutions, values and principles. Servant-leaders may or may not hold formal leadership positions. Servant-leadership encourages collaboration, trust, foresight, listening, and the ethical use of power and empowerment. - Greenleaf Servant Leadership

14. Mark Chapter 10 verses 35-45 The Request of James and John

15. 1. Listening 2. Empathy 3. Healing 4. Awareness 5. Persuasion 6. Conceptualization 7. Foresight 8. Stewardship 9. Commitment to the Growth of People 10. Building Community 1. Listening 2. Empathy 3. Healing 4. Awareness 5. Persuasion 6. Conceptualization 7. Foresight 8. Stewardship 9. Commitment to the Growth of People 10. Building Community Servant Leadership

16. ArroganceHumility VictimBlameActionCovenant Hopeful Hopeless

17. The bad leader is hated by the people. The good leader is loved by the people. The great leader leaves the people understanding they did it themselves. Taoist Saying The bad leader is hated by the people. The good leader is loved by the people. The great leader leaves the people understanding they did it themselves. Taoist Saying Leadership