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2. Welcome and Introductions 2 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

3. So what’s the big deal about trust? Group Discussion 3 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

4. IDENTIFY COMMON FEARS AND ANXIETIES EXPERIENCED BY CARE GIVERS ON A REGULAR (DAILY ) BASIS 4 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

5. WHAT KIND OF EMOTIONAL SUPPORT DO CARE GIVERS NEED THE MOST? 5 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

6. GROUP DISCUSSION 6 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

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8.  Trust means having or placing confidence or a firm belief in the honesty, integrity, dependability or power of someone or something.  Trust in respite care should be: 1.based on mutual respect 2.co-existing with two critical factors: -Vulnerability -Motivation to serve others 3.Set on a foundation of SIX FUNDAMENTAL PERSONAL and CORPORATE VALUES 8 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

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10. They are willing to say: “I don’t know the answer” “I was wrong” “I can’t do this by myself” “I’m sorry” “Please help me!” 10 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

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12. “Do you want to know who you are? Don't ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.” Thomas Jefferson 12 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

13.  Compassion (mercy) – having a deep feeling of sharing in the suffering of another, along with a desire to provide aid or show mercy in practical ways  Communication - the ability to exchange thoughts, messages and information through speech, non-verbal and/or written methods  Commitment - an attitude of pledging oneself to a position and a willingness to be bound emotionally and intellectually to some course of action  Competency - the state or condition of being properly or well qualified and adequate for the purpose at hand  Consistency - manifesting behavior traits that remain continually unchanged and in keeping with the identified needs and expectations  Character - possessing a combination of moral and ethical qualities and features that distinguish oneself from others in terms of integrity, strength and fortitude 13 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

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15. Everyone involved in providing a safe, healthy, positive and productive environment for the loved one and primary care givers. Primary Care Givers Respite Providers Extended Family Medical Community Social Networks Friends 15 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

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18. “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.” Wayne Dyer Wayne Dyer 18 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

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20.  Requires that we become aware of the needs that exist our own needs the needs of others  Provides an opportunity to recognize our own imperfections, weaknesses and need for assistance from others  Gives us an opportunity to overlook offenses/ wrongs done to us  Results in taking action to help others when/ where they need the most help 20 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

21.  It takes two to tango!  Requires clarity and specificity  Involves key elements Listening objectively Clarifying what others say – avoids “assumicide” Sitting quietly when others don’t know what to say Refraining from giving unsolicited advice Reading cues – verbal and non-verbal Understanding underlying “drivers” - needs, motivations, emotions, concerns Sensitivity 21 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

22.  Attitude that conveys dedication and loyalty  Incorporates a “people first” perspective  Provides opportunities to teach and learn from one another  Establishes a goal of “affective commitment” Posses a positive emotional attachment Perform tasks because you “want to”  Demonstrates a sense of purpose 22 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

23.  Requires having a clear understanding of and a defined set of standards  Incorporates flexibility  Demonstrates skill in choosing appropriate activities  Fosters a sense of connectedness  Fulfills responsibilities  Embraces a willingness to learn and grow 23 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

24.  Internally balanced = personal values, desires and beliefs do not contradict one another  Externally balanced = behaviors align with identified needs and expectations  Reliable 24 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

25.  Maintains confidentiality  Maintains healthy boundaries  Honest  Respectful  Embraces personal accountability model 25 11/4/2011 UPTOHIM Ministries

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