1. Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships
Source: CALM

2. Healthy Relationships Have the Following Characteristics:
Talking about your feelings
Respecting date’s friends and activities
Considering the other person’s opinions
and feelings
Respecting differences in other people
Stating differences of opinion
Having an equal say in the relationship
Figuring out a solution that is good for both of you

3. Unhealthy Relationships Have the Following Characteristics:
Believing one sex has more rights than the other
Shouting or yelling when you are angry at your date
Using the silent treatment
Pestering our date until you get what you want
Pouting to get what you want

4. Abusive Relationships Have the Following Characteristics:
Dominating & controlling your date’s other relationships and activities
Name calling (putdowns)
Threatening harm
Intimidating by hitting or destroying property
Being extremely jealous and possessive of your date
Pushing, hitting, restraining or holding your date against his/her will
Forcing sexual touching or intercourse

5. Types of Abusive Relationships
Intimidation (threatening violence)
Emotional Abuse (putdowns, silent treatment)
Sexual Abuse
Physical Abuse
Isolation (keeping someone from having other friends, jealousy)

6. If You Think Your Friend is Being Abused:
Listen and believe your friend
Identify the abuse behaviour to your friend
Tell your friend “You are not to blame”
If your friend chooses not to leave, help create a safety plan
Continue to be a friend even if you are frustrated by decisions or actions
Get new ideas on how to help your friend from people such as community counsellors

7. If You Think Your Friend is Being Abusive
Confront your friend and name abusive behaviours when you see them
Challenge your friend’s stereotyping and putdowns of people
Talk about the consequences of violence
Encourage your friend to get help
Be there for your friend when they accept responsibility and get help