1. Color Test—Relationships…WHO IS GOOD FOR ME? Personality Overview COLORREDBLUEWHITEYELLOW MOTIVEPOWERINTIMACYPEACEFUN NEEDSTo Look GoodTo be GoodTo feel goodTo Look Good (academically)(morally)(inside)(socially) To be rightTo be understoodTo not be hassledTo be popular To be respectedAppreciatedRespectedPraised WANTSLeadershipTo please othersProtectionFreedom To please selfSecurityContentmentAdventure ChallengesIntimacyTo please othersTo be noticed

2. The 7 Most Common Character Strengths: Strengths of Each Color COLOR RED BLUEWHITEYELLOW 1.Loyal to tasks 2.Committed 3.Visionary 4.Logical 5.Leader 6.Focused 7.Responsible 1.Loyal to People 2.Committed 3.Quality Oriented 4.Sincere 5.Honest 6.Purposeful 7.Moral 1.Tolerant 2.Patient 3.Cooperative 4.Accepting 5.Objective 6.Balanced 7.Listener 1.Positive 2.Forgiving 3.Friendly 4.Optimistic 5.Trusting 6.Appreciative 7.Open

3. The 7 Most Common Character Limitations: Limitations of Each Color COLOR RED BLUEWHITEYELLOW 1.Proud 2.Insensitive 3.Poor listener 4.Tactless 5.Rebellious 6.Critical of others 7.Impatient 1.Self Righteous 2.Judgmental 3.Depressed 4.Controlling 5.Unforgiving 6.Suspicious 7.Irrational 1.Timid 2.Silently stubborn 3.Lazy 4.Uninvolved 5.Dependent 6.Directionless 7.Emotionally dishonest 1.Uncommitted 2.Inconsistent 3.Obnoxious 4.Irresponsible 5.Rebellious 6.Self centered 7.Permissive

4. REDS - Overview:  Active and ProductiveResourceful & Self-Reliant  Insensitive and SelfishLack Intimacy Orientation  King of the JungleCalculating & Manipulative  Demanding and criticalRelentless & Impatient  Must be rightDisagreeable & vengeful  Competitive and BoldTenacious & Taxing  Assertive and Determined Red Strengths: Red Limitations: Logical thinking, productive, dynamic,Self serving, always right, rationalizes Independent, natural leader, resourcefulCannot feel comfortable without producing Logical, direct, honest with opinionsOften arrogant, defiant of authority Disciplined, makes decisions quicklyInconsiderate of other’s feelings Excellent provider, loyal to relationshipPrioritizes work over personal relations Highly protective of companionPrimarily concerned with self

5. Blues: Overview  Emotional & Admired  Committed and LoyalAppropriate & Sincere  PerfectionistsPurposeful & Dedicated  High Expectations and DemandingMoody & Complex  Self-Sacrificing and NurturingSelf-Righteous & Insecure  Unforgiving and ResentfulWorry & Guilt Blue Strengths Blue Limitations Creative, Artistic, Clean, Sets unrealistic goals, Gets frustrated Sees life as a serious endeavorHighly emotional, self-righteous, smug Strong Aesthetic senseStrong perfection -performance orientation Sincere, Stable, Dependable, AchieverSelf-abusive, Controlling, lecturer Enjoys deep & sensitive conversationsExpects others to understand and agree Prioritizes relationships over activitiesBlames others for his/her unhappiness Considers spouse first in decision makingDemands affection and intimacy Does the right thing for the right reasonUnforgiving of past misunderstandings

6. White- overview:  Doubtful & DependentTolerant & Patient  ImpressionableWithhold Feelings  Blendable & KindUnproductive Dreamers  Unmotivated & AcceptingTimid & Emotionally unsure  Peaceful & DiplomaticInsecure and Non-Assertive  IndecisiveSilent and Stubborn White Strengths: White Limitations Quiet, reflective, peacefulTakes passive approach to life Sincere & Genuine lifestyleBashful & Unsure of self Compatible with othersAmbivalent about direction & goals Kind to animals and peopleResists making commitments Can entertain self easilyFew suggestions, indecisive, boring Loyal & Committed to relationshipsWilling to let life & Love pass by

7. Yellow- overview:  Happy & FunSelf-Centered & Uncommitted  IrresponsibleEnthusiastic & Carefree  Playful & ExcitingSuperficial  Disorganized & IncompleteImpulsive & Undisciplined  Charismatic & PopularNaïve & Trusting, Talkative Yellow StrengthsYellow Limitations Highly Optimistic (rarely depressed)Self-centered &Unreliable Likes self & OthersLots of talk with little action Love to volunteer for opportunitiesSuperficial & mostly interested in fun Flashy, Spunky, Adventurous, DaringNeeds to look good socially Brings excitement to spouseUncommitted, undependable longterm Promotes intimacy with creative flareMay ignore others & focus on self Few expectations of othersInconsiderate of other’s needs Agreeable to changeWhen patience is required by explode

8. WHAT COLORS ARE ATTRACTED & WHY Good Combos: REDBLUEWHITEYELLOW RED-REDRED- WhiteRed –YELLOW Blue-BlueBlue-WhiteBlue –Yellow White with almost any color...except White – White Yellow RedYellow Blue(don’t even think of Yellow – Yellow) All Colors can Marry any other Color, but....... Some combinations are easier than others.

9. HARDER COMBINATIONS RED -Red: Rule 1, Reds are Always right. Rule 2: If (and it is a huge “if”) Reds are wrong, see Rule #1. This can be successful, but they will verbally work it out and will negotiate everything. RED- BLUE: No harder combination. Both want to be in control. They are equally strong & Determined. Their motives, needs, wants and behaviors are mostly opposite. Can succeed if each assumes a role & leaves the other alone to his or her assumed role, responsibilities and tasks. WHITE –WHITE: Peace & Tolerance, but “unproductive complacency” and they might starve to death... Hawaii, as a state, experienced the trauma many white- whites do. Hawaiians remained complacent in their garden paradise until they suddenly realized that outside investors were buying their land right out from under them, leaving them nothing to pass on to their grandchildren. YELLOW- YELLOW: Yellow relationships typically choose their freedom and neglect commitments. This attitude makes interaction of an intimate or responsible nature unlikely. They typically wear out, which is disappointing in relationships which require a long,enduring commitment.

10. Complementary & Uncomplementary

11. How to Develop a Positive Connection with Reds 1.Present issues logically. 2.Demand their attention and respect. 3.Be direct, brief and specific in conversation. 4.Be productive and efficient. 5.Offer them leadership opportunities. 6.Verbalize your feelings. 7.Support their decisive nature. 8.Promote their intelligent reasoning when appropriate. 9.Be prepared with facts and figures. 10. Respect their need to make their own decisions their own way. Don’t take their arguments personally, embarrass them in front of others or argue from an emotional perspective.

12. How to Develop a Positive Connection with Blues 1. Emphasize their security in the relationship. 2.Be sensitive and soft spoken in your approach. 3.Be sincere and genuine. 4. Behave appropriately and well-mannered. 5.Limit their risk level. 6.Promote their creativity. 7.Appreciate them. 8.Allow ample time for them to gather their thoughts before expressing themselves. 9.Be loyal. 10. Do thorough analysis before making presentations. Don’t make them feel guilty, promote too much change, abandon them, expect them to forgive too quickly when crossed or push them too quickly in making decisions.

13. How to Develop a Positive Connection with Whites: 1.Be loving and sensitive. 2.Be firm. 3.Provide a structure (boundaries) for them to operate in. 4.Be patient and gentle. 5.Introduce options and ideas for their involvement. 6.Be simple and open. 7.Accept their individuality. 8.Be casual, informal and relaxed. 9.Look for non-verbal clues to their feelings. 10. Listen quietly. Don’t be unkind, don’t be too intense, make demands, force verbal expression or expect them to always need others.

14. How to Develop a Positive Connection with Yellows: 1.Be positive. 2.Adore them. 3.Touch them physically. 4.Accept their playful teasing. 5.Remember they are tender. 6.Praise them. 7.Remember they hold feelings deeply. 8.Promote playful activities for and with them. 9.Enjoy their charismatic innocence. 10. Allow them opportunity for verbal expression. Don’t ignore them. Don’t be too serious or sober in criticism. Don’t demand perfection, or try to control their schedules. Don’t give them too much rope or they may hang themselves, but don’t push them too intensely.

15. REDS SUMMARY REVIEW : Red- Red “relationships are typically the most dynamic of all the color connections. Both people are direct, decisive, and determined. They are such intense people that everything about their relationship is generally bold and high profile.” “Warmth is not the word here, ‘fireworks’ is more like it. Red- Blue Good luck! Red- White: “…relationships are one of the most comfortable combinations found among the personalities. Their differences are often more complementary than distracting.” RED- White conversation—Red “Me Tarzan” White response-- “Terrific. Jane sounds good to me!” Red- Yellow “without question this blend has the grestest difficulty staying married. When healthy, this blend suffers no emotional baggage and experiences life to the max.”

16. Blues: Summary Review Blue-Blue “Of all the colorful blends one finds in relationships, BLUE BLUE combinations run the deepest emotionally and commit the longest. Blue- White “Interestingly Blue women may become bored with White husbands, while Blue men remain appreciative of their White companion’s accepting ways.” The key is “gentle persuasion” Blue- Yellow “…relationships allow for the most intimate combination of different color personalities.” Blue- Red “Red—Do what I say and we’ll get along fine. Blue– Tell me you appreciate me, and I’ll walk to the ends of the earth for you.” “Neither offers the other what he or she wants without first demanding that his or her own needs be met as well.”

17. Whites REVIEW SUMMARY: White – Reds-- One of the most common and highly successful. Red women may get impatient with their white husband sometimes, but they will respond to keep the peace and are excellent with the children. White- Blue – excellent combo usually White – White “Quiet complacency.” Works well if you live on an island paradise where you can live under the stars and eat fruit from trees. White- Yellow: “Gentle Fun.” This relationship is about the nice guys and the nice girls. They can be excellent friends, colleagues, but rarely find themselves in committed, intimate relationships.”

18. YELLOW REVIEW SUMMARY Yellow- Red-- works good. Yellow-Blue -- Very intimate but the big issue is whether you do the work first or after you play. Primarily concerned with quality relationships (genuine human connections) However, blues want to actually get the work done before the playing begins. They both crave intimacy and so tend to have that. Yellow-White Mellow Yellow, but we may never know because there is no one to propose marriage. Friends forever!! Yellow-Yellow INCINERATION….

19. GOOD LUCK!!! The End