1. April 22, 2015 Entry Task: Why do people date? Target: Dating purposes & types of love

2. Ground Rules What should they be? Think.. Discuss… Follow them

3. AGENDA… The Purposes of Dating Appointment with love Types of Love Ladder of Love Love or Infatuation?

4. The Purposes of Dating

5. Socialization: To develop appropriate social skills To practice getting along with others in different settings

6. Recreation: To have fun and enjoy the companionship of others To try new and different activities

7. Mate Selection: To see others in many different settings To compare the personality and characteristics of many people To determine if you could live…for the rest of your life with this person

8. An Appointment With Love

9. Types of Love Romantic Love –Puppy Love Sexual Love –The intimate expression of love. Pragmatic Love –A rational, reasoning kind of love. Platonic Love –The spiritual and intellectual relationship between a man and a woman. Companionship Love –A love typically found in good friendships. Altruistic Love –Selfless love or concern for the spouse. Manic Love –A crazy, possessive, jealous kind of love. Self-Love –An egotistic, narcissistic kind of love. In an ideal marital relationship, you would experience all types of love, everyday. However, until you are married, you can still experience most types of love with a variety of people.

10. The Ladder of Love

11. Ladder of Love Mature love for others Love for children Love for the opposite sex Love for someone the same sex, older Love for same sex friend First love outside the family Love of other relatives Love for secondary caregiver Love for primary caregiver Self-love Love for humankind, very unselfish love. Unselfish love with ability to love without expecting anything in return. Begins with interest in the other sex and continues throughout life. Role model and exemplified what you wanted to become. Close friend of the same age and sex. You had fun with this person and loved him for the times shared. Love of a relative which brought a special sense of security. This person met your needs and cared for you. Usually your father. Your primary caregiver (usually mother). Until you love yourself, you cannot truly love another.

12. Love vs. Infatuation Grows slowly Long lasting Trust More realistic More thoughtful Happens quickly Short-lived Physical thrills Jealousy Rush to marry

13. LOVEINFATUATION Happens suddenly Under one circumstance Know only a few character traits Self centered Love grows over time Known under many circumstances Learn all characteristics of the person Other person centered

14. LOVE INFATUATION More than one person Problems are glossed over May be based only on physical attraction Doesn’t want to wait for anything May end suddenly Seen as deprivation Only for one person Face problems and try to solve them Physical attraction is a small part Endures Can wait for marriage

15. Each group will divide the statements about love into two piles. –Infatuation –Love Divide into groups of 4-5. Love vs. Infatuation