2. Children need these critical thinking skills to make better choices and responsible decisions.
When they have these skills they have fewer problems.
They understand other people's points of view and they stop and think before they act.
Without them, children have no impulse control and lack the fundamental social skills to function easily with their peers.

3. Emotions are powerful and children who are unaware of this power can fail to see the consequences of their actions.
They are unable to communicate their feelings appropriately or handle themselves in difficult situations.
When this occurs, they can make decisions that can ruin their lives.

4. STOP
AND
THINK

5. Wise Ways 1 Wizard Brain vs. Lizard Brain
In order to stop and think, thinking skills must be learned to engage the section of the brain where problems are assessed and analyzed before responding. Otherwise, the reptilian or "lizard" part of the brain – the section housing emotions and the fight or flight response – takes over, triggering impulsive, non-thinking responses.

6. The Brain

7. Wise Ways 2 Constellation of Support
Awareness of people and what resources to go to for help involves knowing how to evaluate the type of help you need and identifying the best place to get it. This includes learning how to recognize people who will help you succeed, and understanding why people close to you may not be able to give you the support you need.

8. Who is your constellation of support?
Mom
Anya
Joanna
Dad
Friend 1
Friend 2

9. Wise Ways 3 Red Flag Warnings
Thinking skills involve recognizing internal (what you feel inside) and external (what you see or do) red flags. The red flags warn of something about to happen, and awareness of these warning signals gives you time to stop and think.

10. RED FLAG WARNING
INTERNAL (what you physically feel INSIDE) when something is going to happen):
EXTERNAL (things you do or see, or things you see other people do, signaling that something is going to happen):

11. Wise Ways 4 Exit the Emotional Elevator
Think of emotions as an elevator in a ten-story elevator – the higher up the elevator rises, the more intense the emotion and the probability of Lizard Brain responses. A number of strategies help keep emotions low or off the elevator, including control self-talk, stop talking, leave the situation, redirect the emotions, deep breathing and relaxation methods, and recognizing and changing Lizard Brain response patterns.

12. 10 ecstatic
9 overjoyed
8 jubilant
7 thrilled
6 satisfied
5 playful
4 cheerful
3 excited
2 joyful
1 happy

13. Exit the Emotional Elevator
The way you express yourself is your choice
There are many ways to get your point across and get others to listen
You must decide if the way you express your emotions gets you what you want without creating problems

14. Skills you can use to Exit the Emotions Elevator
Control Self-talk
Involves learning to talk to yourself in such a way that you are able to calm yourself down and think clearly
“I need to handle this”
“I can’t let this bother me”
“I don’t want to get in trouble”
Negative Self – talk
thoughts that are likely to increase your frustration and anger and cause you to be out of control

15. Stop Talking and Leave the Situation
Sometimes you need to leave a situation and the conversation in order to maintain control of your emotions and lower your emotional elevator
Shows that you are in control of your actions
You are able to recognize that you may say or do something that can cause bigger problems
This does not mean that you do not go back later to solve the problem or address the situation

16. Relaxation Techniques
Redirect your Emotions
Redirecting negative energy into something physical
Doing something for others
Helps you transfer negative energy to something else until you regain control
Still need to address the problem
Relaxation Techniques
Mediation
Self - talk

17. ALWAYS BE LOWER ON THE EMOTIONS ELEVATOR THAN THE PERSON OR PERSONS YOU ARE DEALING WITH
DO NOT TRY TO SOLVE A PROBLEM WITH A PERSON WHO IS VERY ANGRY, VERY FRIGHTENED OR VERY EXCITED

18. Wise Ways 5 Separate Fact from Opinion
The root of many problems is the inability to separate fact from opinion. A fact is what you know to be true, an opinion is what you think is true. Used in conjunction with Wise Ways 1-4, the process of separating fact from opinion is easier to understand and do.

19. Fact vs. Opinion Fact – something you can prove is true
Opinion – something you think is true but can’t prove
Confusing fact & opinion is also the foundation for gossip
Opinion words: everything, never, always, all, nothing

21. Wise Ways 6 Ask Questions
Having access to the right information requires the ability to recognize what questions to ask, and knowing how to ask them. This involves integrating Wise Ways 1-5 into the question asking process.

22. She looked at him, turned and ran.

23. Wise Ways 7 Identify Your Choices (IDC)
People who use their Lizard Brain respond one way, believing they only have no choices. This creates a feeling that their lives are controlled by fate, luck, chance or powerful others. Wizard Brain thinkers recognize that they have more than one choice, and use thinking skills to assess and analyze all their choices so they make the best choice possible.

24. Identify All Choices (IDC)
Lizard Brain – one choice
Wizard Brain – additional choices are considered

25. When you jump to conclusions, you cause problems for yourself and others because you don’t Stop and Think that there may be other ways to deal with the problem
The more choices you come up with, the more likely you are to think of a solution that helps resolve the problem

26. Wise Ways 8 Consider Consequences
Consequences Now and Later (CNL), Consequences Affecting Others (CAO). Wizard Brain thinkers are aware of the consequences of their choices. They use thinking skills 1-7 to help them assess and analyze the consequences of their choices now, the consequence later (CNL), and the consequence affecting others (CAO).

27. Consequences Now & Later (CNL)
Teens need to think about the consequences of a choice BEFORE they make their decision
They need to learn to think about the future as well as the present
Consequences Affecting Others (CAO)
Looks at the need for rules and the consequences of not following them
IDC, CNL and CAO are thinking skills that buffer the Lizard Brain’s impulsive response to a problem

28. Wise Ways 9 Set Goals and Form an Action Plan
Wise Ways 1-8 help build a foundation to understand the importance of setting goals and making plans to reach them. Within this framework, it is easy to build connections among and between the Wise Ways, creating awareness of the importance of goals, and why successful achievement must be accompanied by a plan to reach them.

29. What’s My Goal?
Uses the skills for Separating Fact from Opinion, Asking Question, Gathering Information, Identifying your Choices and setting a Goal to form an Action Plan
All action plans start with two words: HOW TO..
This skill does not solve the problem, but it does make what you want and what you need to do more clear

30. Wise Ways 10
Using "I" Messages, taking other people's Point of View (POV), using Positive Body Messages, and using Assertive Statements.
Communication involves using all the 10 Wise Ways, not at the same time, or in the order learned, but integrated throughout conversations and different methods used to send and share information.

31. In order to communicate effectively use:
Effective communication involves understanding other people's points of view recognizing how using thinking skills helps to deliver information and messages clearly.
In order to communicate effectively use:
Non Verbal Communication
Sending positive body messages
Verbal Communication
Using “I” Messages
Recognizing differences without making judgements
Sending double messages (mixed messages)

32. Summary Activity
It is important to practice your 10 Wise Ways in order to strengthen your thinking skills.
The connection between the thalamus and the prefrontal cortex will disappear if not used, unlike the stronger bonds between the thalamus and
the limbic system.
WW1
WW2
WW3
WW4
Thalamus
(Relay Center)
Prefrontal Cortex (Wizard Brain)
WW5
WW6
WW7
Limbic System (Lizard Brain)
WW8
WW9
WW10

33. CHOICE Lizard Brain Wizard Brain Act Without Thinking Stop and Think
Weak or no Support Constellation Strong Support Constellation
Ignore Internal Warnings Know Internal Red Flags
Ignore External Warnings See External Red Flags
“10” on Emotions Elevator Exit Emotions Elevator
Impulsive Control Self- Talk
React to Opinions Stop Talking and Leave the Situation
Ruled by Emotions Relaxation Control
No Information Get the Facts
Don’t Question Ask Questions
Don’t Examine Your Choices Identify Choices
No CAO/CNL Consider CAO/CNL
No Clear Goals Set Goals
Display Negative Body Language Display Positive Body Language
Use “You” messages Use “I” messages
Behave Aggressively/Passively Behave Assertively
(Poor Choices)
(Good Choices)
Act Without Thinking
Stop and Think
CHOICE
PROBLEMS LIFE SUCCESS