1. Friendships

2. Qualities of Friendship
Terms to know: clique, loyalty, reciprocity
All friendships are different
The qualities we look for in a friendship varies from person to person

3. Cont. Strong relationships have certain qualities: Common interests
Loyalty
Empathy
Dependability
Reciprocity
Forgiveness
Caring

4. Making Friends Relationships are complicated
Meet people that have the same interests as you
Start a conversation with someone you don’t know
Ask open-ended questions
Pay attention to what they are saying and respond
Avoid controversial topics

5. Cont. Taking the next step Handling rejection Call them
Make plans to hang out
Handling rejection
Can be painful but happens to everyone
Don’t change yourself to make others happy
Not every friendship is meant to be

6. Cont. Keeping friendships strong Make time for each other Be honest
Trustworthy
Always working to make it better

7. Teen Friendships Friendship groups Cliques Help shape who teens are
Who teens spend most of their time with
Cliques
Small exclusive group
Tends to people who share the same values and interests
Are cliques a good thing??

8. Cont. Friends of different ages Growing apart
Helps broaden teenagers understanding of themselves and the world around them
Growing apart
Don’t always survive the changes teenagers go through
People change

9. Friends for Life
Having a lot of friends is not as important as having a few (1or 2) good friends that are there for you no matter what
Friendships should help you grow as a person
Strengthen your character
Learn to give to others (sharing)
Make you a better person overall

10. Responsible Relationships

11. Friendships Typically, most relationships start out as friendships
First step to a serious relationship

12. Relationships Learn to care at a more personal level
May have sexual pressures
Wonder about the expectations of the other person
Complicated

13. Going Out Wanting more than a friendship
Age of readiness is not the same for everyone
“go out” for specific reasons

14. Establishing Rules Parents set up the rules
They don’t want their teens in situations that are beyond their ability and control
Don’t want teens to be involved in serious relationships so they don’t lose sight of important goals
If you were a parent, what rules would you set?
What concerns would you have?

15. Spending Time with a Group
Going out usually begins in groups
Safer
Helps people to relax and have a good time
Less nervous
Don’t always have to keep a conversation going

16. Going Out as a Couple Going in groups helps people to be comfortable
Eventually they go out as a couple
Going out with others helps to learn about others
Going out with only one person gives a person security
Often the relationship ends
Lose a lot of opportunities to meet other people

17. Commitment
When two people decide they don’t want to see other people and stay true to each other
State of obligation to each other and a dedication to making the relationship work

18. Marriage Success is often determined before the marriage takes place
Some people don’t spend enough time getting to know their partner
Usually takes at least a year or more to get to know someone
Skills and effort are needed to make marriages work as well as communication and conflict resolution

19. Cont. Not everyone wants to marry
Marriage is a choice, not an obligation
May find career, travel, or community service more fulfilling

20. Teen Marriages Not all make this commitment seriously
Roughly 70% of teen marriages end in divorce
Still a time of change
Teenage years are full of experiences that don’t happen when people get older, missed because of the marriage

21. Handling Emotions A high level of attachment can stir intense emotions
Love and infatuation
“how will I know when I’m in love?”
Love is needed by two people to make a relationship last
Love is based on caring and a desire to work towards common goals
Requires giving and taking
Communication
Trust

22. Cont. Many people are infatuated with someone, not in love
Love lasts, infatuations don’t
How to tell the difference?:
Is the relationship based on more than physical appearance?
Is the feeling based on the total person?
Is concern for the other person’s well-being and happiness important?
Has enough time been allowed to tell?

23. Crushes
Intense, short-term feelings of fascination that are usually not returned
The feelings will fade with time

24. Stalking The ending of a relationship or crush may end with problems
Unwelcomed pursuit of another
Refuses to acknowledge that the relationship is over
Calls repeatedly, constant letters, following the person, loitering around their home
Contact police if this occurs

25. Jealousy Typical in relationships
Feeling that the person you care about is more interested in someone or something else
A little bit of jealousy is normal; out of hand, it is destructive
Extremely jealous people are insecure
Best way to handle it is to talk about it
Understand that the person has needs that the relationship can not fulfill

26. Anger Can threaten a relationship Common in relationships
When anger is felt, physical actions are NOT allowed
Verbal responses are not allowed
Physical and verbal attacks happen because the person does not know how to communicate effectively or how to solve a conflict
Don’t let anger build over time, just as destructive

27. When Relationships End
Unreasonable to expect a person to find a life long mate without ever trying other relationships
Breaking up can be very painful and difficult
Read information on page 198

28. Sexuality and Responsibility
Opinions and values differ
Need to be realistic and know about the consequences of their actions
3 out of 10 high school girls that get pregnant get a degree by age 30
Regrets can cause guilt
New relationships may be harder to form
Reputations can suffer
Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Some are treatable, not all

29. Real Pressures Why take risks? Physical pressures Television shows
Movies
Explicit images
Peer pressures

30. Strategies for Handling Sexual Feelings
Think ahead
Make a plan for abstinence
Practice refusal skills
Make your own choice (don’t let someone else influence your choice!!)
Self-control
Can still show affection, express it differently

31. Pride in Yourself Feel good about yourself
Stand up for your personal values
You are smart enough to make wise decisions on your own

32. Teen Parenting

33. Teen parenting
Not mature enough – emotionally, physically, or financially to take on responsibility of parenthood
More likely to abuse/neglect their children
Have low paying jobs
Need to finish school
Dropping out will not provide opportunities for experience and training needed to get a better job

34. Physical Concerns Bodies are still growing
Babies tend to be born premature or have low birth weight
Endanger a females body
More likely to develop toxemia or anemia

35. Planning Ahead Not planning ahead hurts the parents and the child
May give baby a poor start to life and may not foster the child’s growth and development needs
Talk to partner about responsibilities and consequences

36. Open Books to page 161 (White Book)
Write one sentence summaries for each of the following sections:
Health risks
Academic risks
Emotional risks
Social risks
Economics
Child care
Neglect and abuse