2 ObjectivesList six things that parents are responsible for providing to their childrenName four characteristics that indicate personal readiness for becoming a parentSummarize why parents might have a hard time adjusting to their new roles as parentsIdentify four basic problems teen parents will faceList three options available to teen parents
3 Rewards and Responsibilities Rewards of ParentingWelcoming a child into the world can bring great joyParents develop new skills, strengths and understanding of their child, spouses and themselvesParents often feel happiness and love that they have never felt beforeChildren can also enrich an already strong marriage
4 Rewards and Responsibilities Responsibilities of ParentingParents are responsible for providing:Constant CareLoveSecurityShelterGuidanceFinancial Support- Each stage of childhood is different, requiring parents to constantly meet new challenges
5 Parenting Roles Parents often play the roles of: Housekeeper Cook ChaufferFriendPlaymateCoachTutorCounselor- Caring for children is a 24-hour a day job, the responsibility can not be put aside for a while
6 Parenting RolesParents also have the responsibility of being good role modelsWhether they realize it or not, children are constantly observing their values, character traits and skills in their everyday actionsFor better or worse, children will pattern themselves after the examples set by their parentsWhat values have you learned from your parents? Both good and bad?
7 Ideas About Parenthood Unrealistic IdeasRealistic ReasonsI’m lonely. A child will love me.Our marriage is strong and we’re ready to become parents.I feel unimportant, a baby will attract attention and I’ll be noticed.I am willing to put someone else’s needs ahead of my own.My parents want us to have a child.I’m secure in who I am and will work hard to be a good parent.My relationship with my spouse/partner is shaky, a child will make it stronger.We know hat we’re taking on, and we accept the responsibilityI’m afraid of the future, a child will care for me when I’m old.We are emotionally and financially ready to have a family of our own.
8 Readiness for Parenting Parenting is a lifelong, life-changing commitmentThe decision to have a child needs to be backed up by sound reasoningA child CAN NOT fix problems or weaknesses in your lifeChildren deserve to be born to parents who are ready for parenthoodPeople need to analyze their parenting readiness – which is their level of preparation
9 Readiness for Parenting Emotional ReadinessEmotional Maturity means being responsible enough to consistently put someone else’s needs before your own.Emotionally Mature parents have the inner resources to put the needs of their child before their ownThey have patience, sensitivity, self-control, and self-confidenceIf parents cannot cope with their own emotions, they will have trouble handling a child’s emotions
10 Readiness for Parenting Financial ReadinessRaising a child is expensive, couples should assess their financial readiness to become parentsThey need to determine how they will manage immediate and long-term costs of raising a childQuestions couples should ask themselves includeWill there need to be spending cuts?Will we need a larger living space?Can we afford for one parent to stay home?How much will child care cost if both parents work?
11 Readiness for Parenting Personal ReadinessManagement SkillsParents need to know how to use their time, money and energy wisely.FlexibilityParents who are flexible are better able to meet daily challenges. At a moments notice, parents might need to clean up a spill, take care of an argument or head to the hospital.Willingness to SacrificeParents often need to sacrifice their time, money and personal interests for their children.ConsistencyParents need the maturity to behave consistently. Establishing and enforcing rules, routines and limits help children feel secure and understand their boundaries
12 Adjusting to Parenthood The Mother’s RecoveryNot only is there a physical recovery, but many women also experience bouts of depression and anxiety – the rush of hormones can make new mothers feel emotionalA newborn needs to be fed and changed times a day, around the clockAdjusting as a CoupleA father may feel like an outsider when the mother and baby get a lot of the attentionStudies show marital satisfaction often decreases after the birth of a babySpouses tend to fight more and show each other less affectionCouples who acknowledge and deal with the challenges are more likely to experience a stronger marriagePlanning AheadThe decision to become parents deserves careful thought and discussion – the couple should discuss how they will handle the demands of parenting along with their other responsibilities and goals.
13 Reflection Part IOn a separate piece of paper, answer each of the following questions on a separate piece of paper:Identify three rewards of parentingSummarize the different aspects of a readiness new parents have to deal with.Describe why new parents tend to be very tired.
14 Consequences of Teenage Pregnancy Adjusting to parenthood can be hard for anyone, but especially hard for teensTeen parents face difficulties that parents in their 20’s and 30’s do notMost teens are not mature enough, physically, emotionally or financiallyTeen parenthood has predictable consequences. The four basic types of problems areHealth risksEducation challengesFinancial IssuesEmotional and Social stress
15 Health RisksOne complication teen mothers are more at risk for is an iron deficiency which deprives the baby and mother of oxygenBabies born to teen mothers are more likely to be premature – which means born before 37 weeksThey are also more likely to have a low birth weight (less than 5lbs 8 ounces)Premature babies run greater risks for serious health problems such as vision and hearing loss, respiratory problems, learning disabilities and mental retardation.
16 Health RisksA female teen has high nutritional needs, when she becomes pregnant there must be an extra emphasis on nutrition to help the baby growMany teens put off getting medical care because they do not want to face the fact they are pregnant – however – those who take proper care of themselves have a great chance of having a healthy baby
17 Babies Born to Teen Parents Tend to have:Less supportive and stimulating home environmentsHave higher rates of behavioral problemsMore likely to be neglected and abused because their teen parents do not know how to handle the stress and emotions of being a parentMore likely to become teen parents themselves
18 Education ChallengesIt is important for teen parents to finish their schooling, at least through high schoolUnfortunately, many drop out to support themselves and their babyNearly HALF of all teen mothers who drop out never return to finish their diplomaWithout a diploma it is hard to make enough money to support a family, and in turn puts the burden on society to help the family.
19 Financial Issues/Emotional Stress Most teen parents experience financial problemsIt is important to determine Paternity, the legal identification of a man as the father, it legally ensures he is responsible even if he decides to not be a part of the child’s lifeTeen parents do not have the freedom or money to hang out with friends as much as their peers doTeens realize quickly that they must give up a lot to be a good parent
20 Teen Parenting Options MarriageMost people would agree that a strong and successful marriage benefits parents and their childrenAdoptionClosed adoption – is an adoption in which the birth parents do not know the names of the adoptive parentsOpen adoption – is an adoption where the birth parents and adoptive parents know something about each otherSingle ParentTeens considering single parenthood need to be realistic and ask the right questionsSingle teen parents can be successful, but it is not an easy road