Presentation on theme: "Refusal Skills and THE Right to Say “No” March 2012"— Presentation transcript:
1 Refusal Skills and THE Right to Say “No” March 2012 Sexual Health ProgramPublic Health ServicesMarch 2012
2 Refusal Skills What are Refusal Skills? Why do we need to learn about refusal skills in relationships?
3 Refusal Skills “NO” to risky behaviors. Respect Refusal skills are ways to say“NO” to risky behaviors.Respect
4 Refusal SkillsRefusal skills help students to resist peer pressure and to maintain their self-respect at the same.Refusal skills can be used in situations of crime,drug and alcohol use, sexual activityand violence.From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
5 Refusal Skills / Peer Pressure Refusal skills can also beused in any peer pressuresituations.Adolescents are very sensitive topeer pressure and do not wanttheir peers to make fun of orridicule them.
6 Peer Pressure Peer pressure can be difficult for some students to resist.Why do you think this is?
7 Peer Pressure Students may be… - afraid of being rejected by others - want to be liked and don’t want to lose a friend- don’t want to be made fun of- don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings- aren’t sure of what they really want- don’t know how to get out of the situation
8 Peer PressureSaying “no” can sometimes be hard, but you might be surprised how easy it gets with practice.If you know you are going to be some place whereyou might be in a difficult position, plan aresponse or action ahead of time.
9 Refusal Skills Techniques Some ways that have worked for youth…Just say “NO” or “NO THANKS”! Keep on repeating it.Refuse – “Don’t feel like it.” “No way.”Leave- this way you can't be persuaded to join in. Leave quietly while no one notices or by making an excuse or joke - “You guys are too crazy for me ...see you later.”Make an excuse. "Can't stop now, got to go....." “I’ll barf.” or “I have to get up in the morning.”Pretend you haven't heard and walk away
10 Refusal Skills Techniques Change the subject – talk about something elseLaugh - "I thought you said… You've got to be joking!" then change the subject or leave - still laughing.Pretend to be shocked or amazedCome up with a better idea – “Nah, that doesn’t sound like much fun. Let’s go play video games at my house instead.”Blame your parents – My Mom can smell this stuff a mile away and I’ll get grounded for months.”
11 Refusal Skills Techniques Give friendly advice:“That could be a dumb thing to do. Whose idea was it? You're too smart to get into that.”“I'm not doing this because I'm your friend and I don'twant to see you get into trouble.”“That's a bit unkind. How would you feel if someone did (said) that to you?“”“Everybody's different, even you.”“You're entitled to your opinion, I'm entitled to mine.”
12 More TechniquesTurn the Tables If the person won’t let up try turning the tables and ask, “why do you care if I do or don’t ?” Be confident in your response.State the Truth People don’t like being accused of peer pressuring others, so try stating the obvious, “wow, the peer pressure in this room is pretty strong!” then smile and walk away.Be Proactive If you know you are in a situation where you are likely to be offered alcohol or other drugs, leave before you ever get to that point.Accept the Person, Reject the Behaviour If the person is giving you a hard time try telling the person,“I respect your choice to do drugs, respect mine not to.”
13 NICE Technique N – say “NO” not “maybe” or “later” I – use an “I” statement – “I do not want to…”C – “change” the topicE – have an “exit” plan for leaving a pressuresituation
14 Sandwich Technique Sandwich formula (positive-negative-positive) 1. Compliment the person (positive)2. Refuse or be negative about the activity, not the person (negative)3. Come back with a positive suggestion (positive)
15 Sandwich Techniques Examples: “I really like hanging with you. Drugs are not my style though. Besides I would get kicked off the hockey team if I was caught doing drugs.”“No way man, smoking is stupid. Let’s go see who is playing basketball at the school.”“No thanks, alcohol is not for me. My parents would ground me for a month if they thought I tried that stuff.”“I would be very happy to help you with your assignment. I cannot work with you if you are drinking though. Why don’t you come to my house with me after school?”Can you think of some ???
16 Refusal SkillsWhatever you do, speak firmly. Let your friends know that your mind is made up and you will not talk about it any more.Encourage others to choose healthful and responsible behaviors.
17 Quote from teens: “Be yourself. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do.”
18 Refusal SkillsBest answer for any type of pressure is“Good-bye!”
19 RightsYou have the right to resist anyone or anything that someone is pressuringyou to do.You have the right to say no, the right not to give a reason why, and the right to just walk away from the situation.
20 Right to Say “NO” NO worries about potential consequences * Religious/moral beliefs/ values* Do not want to keep secrets from parents* To avoid guilt, fear and disappointment* More time for friends and activities* Can increase personal growth* Can develop a more positive relationshipsNO worries about potential consequences
21 Right to Say “NO” You have a right to say “NO” at any time! You are the one who needs to decide what makes you feel happy and comfortable doing.You deserve to be liked, respected and loved for more than your willingness to participate in risky behaviors.You have a right to say“NO” at any time!
22 Quotes “ You matter. You are the sum of your heart and mind and spirit. ”
23 Quotes Quote by Dr. Suess: “Be who you are and say what you feel because thosewho mind don't matter andthose who matterdon't mind.”
24 ResourcesAADAC, OYZ Refusal Strategy ToolkitGreat to Wait websitePublic Health Agency of Canada (PHAC)Sex?-A Healthy Sexuality Resource Nova Scotia Public Health ServicesSexuality and U website-Wikipedia