1. Using Experience as a Starting Point to understanding and addressing conjugal slavery Onen David Gender & Sexuality Programme Refugee Law Project gender@refugeelawproject.org International Conference on Conjugal Slavery in War Feb. 15 206 - Hotel Venus - Kinshasa, DRC

2. Trust building through inclusive service provision Families with children born out of rape Men of Hope, Peace & Courage – Separate and joint spaces

3. RLP’s work – Using survivor’s experience as a starting point Women & Men as victims/survivors Women with children born out of rape Families bringing up enemies’ children Women & Men walking away leaving behind children born out of rape Women enduring the pain of pregnancies out of rape

4. From individuals to communities - the struggle for voice

5. Men’s struggle for voice Myths and stereotypes on sexual violence against men & boys Physical, psychological & psychosocial challenges with skewed response Legal lacuna Silence

6. The cycle of service provision, disclosure and evidence - RLP’s model Service Provision Evidence Gathering Trust & Disclosure Entry Point

7. Addressing subjects’ concerns/fears about research Demonstrating commitment - challenging the notion that research is extractive Establishing a working relationship to address post research outcomes – Survivors/respondents analysis of costs/risk and benefit associated with a study

8. How ready are we? To lay down or atleast let go of assumptions & stereotypes and pre- conceived ideas To address the politics around us To rethink our approaches including methodologies and ethics

9. Thank you