1. Children, men and violence against women Deborah McIlveen Policy Manager Respect Conference April 2009

2. Women’s Aid Federation of England ‣ National domestic violence charity ‣ Membership organisation – national network of 500+ local domestic violence services across England ‣ 320,000 women and children receive help and support each year, 50,000 in refuges Services – national helpline, UK Gold Book, training, research, publicity and guidance, UK Refuges on- line, on-line Survivor Handbook,Expect Respect Online Toolkit ‣ Partnerships - work with government, justice system, health, voluntary sector for a coordinated approach to end DSV ⃗ Work is based on over 30 years of campaigning, research and advocacy to improve responses and to prevent domestic violence

3. Women’s Aid strategic aims: To work towards the prevention of domestic and sexual violence through public awareness and education To improve the protection available to women and children by ensuring their needs and experiences inform law, policy and practice To ensure the provision of high quality services for abused women and children

4. Aims: Women’s Aid work in relation to boys, men and violence against women Key challenges Next steps

5. Violence against women 3 million women and girls affected every year – impact on children - 50% of rape survivors under 18 VAW is causal and contributory to women’s inequality and a human rights issue WNC/VAW/EVAW Government joined up d & s violence now consulting on VAW

6. Work with women and children Children need loving parents. Safety is paramount. Rights of the Child Women still primary carers for children Until men take responsibility for the equal care of their children women and men will not have equality or an end to violence against women Work with men survivors

7. Risks with domestic violence, forced marriage, honour based violence/other vaw The factors and influences that combine to get in the way of ensuring safe and positive contact  Inadequate information and inconsistent practice  Lack of robust, dynamic risk assessments and management  Lack of resources

8. Prevention Work with children and young people - statutory phse, citizenship – sexual bullying in the curriculum Constructs of masculinity and femininity – heterosexism and homophobia Media/other campaign work – inform adults, children and young people

9. Protection Justice system – criminal, civil, family – integrated approach – most survivors of VAW do not use Safe child contact Joint Birth Registration ContactPoint

10. Provision Safe separate services for women and children and services for men/boys Support for children/young people Joined up VAW response

11. Challenges: Grants to commissioning PSA’s and National Indicators Local Strategic Partnerships – Community Plan Quality framework – margins to mainstream EHRC Political and economic climate

12. Tactics and tools Survival of voluntary sector + voices of women, men, girls and boys Gender Duty National Consultation ‘Together we can end violence against women and girls’ People – organisations, groups, individuals

13. Using the gender equality duty What is in your local Gender Equality Scheme? Who was consulted? Does address gender inequalities experienced by women, girls, men and boys in your area? Across the equality strands Gender impact assessments

14. VAW Strategy Role of schools/education Attitudes Protection and support Statutory interventions Tracking offenders + interventions Quality Journey safer at night – violence in the built environment

15. WA way forward National Indicator Quality framework Provision in every area that includes children and young people National publicity campaign In partnership

16. Women’s Aid resources: –0808 2000 247 –Freephone 24-hour National DV Helpline –Run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge –Language Line and Type Talk availability Provides support, information, listening services to women experiencing DV and to those seeking help on a women’s behalf. Explores available options and if appropriate refers on to local refuges, DV services and other sources of help and information. UK-refuges online: up-to-date bed space availability across UK On- line Survivors Handbook Expect Respect Campaign and On-line Educational Toolkit www.thehideout.org.uk www.womensaid.org.uk

17. What does it take to get people to talk about it?