1. May 13, 2015 Entry Task Target for Today
How can you tell if you are in love or just infatuated?
Target for Today
Identify and analyze the predictors of a successful relationship.

2. INFATUATION What is Infatuation? LOVE Love grows over time
Known under many circumstances
Learn all characteristics of the person
Other person centered
INFATUATION
Happens suddenly
Under one circumstance
Know only a few character traits
Self centered

3. What is Infatuation? Only for one person
Face problems and try to solve them
Physical attraction is a small part
Endures
Can wait for marriage
More than one person
Problems are glossed over
May be based only on physical attraction
Doesn’t want to wait for anything
May end suddenly
Seen as deprivation

4. Seven Predictors of a successful relationship
Dating for at least one year
Financial stability
Able to set up a household
Having full time employment for a
minimum of six months

5. Seven Predictors of a successful relationship
Personal stability
No alcohol or drug abuse
No jail record or on parole
Parental approval
Two sides- which to choose?

6. Seven Predictors of a successful relationship
Similar attitudes about birth control and children
Similar life goals, religious, and ethnic backgrounds

8. Seven Predictors of a successful relationship
Ability to communicate feelings and ideas and the ability to make mutual decisions. Able to solve problems.

9. Seven Predictors of a successful relationship
Dating for at least one year
Financial stability
Personal stability
Parental approval
Similar attitudes about birth control and children
Similar life goals, religious, and ethnic backgrounds
Ability to communicate

10. Danger signs of Improper Dating Relationships
When we value our date’s opinion more than the opinions of our parents or older, wiser friends (i.e. friends, parents, pastors, teacher you respect)
When our Personal Standards are laid aside while in the presence of our date
When we cease wanting to be with others and want to be exclusively with our date all of the time

11. Danger signs of Improper Dating Relationships, cont.
When we habitually date people much older than ourselves
When we attempt to justify the lowering of our sexual standards

12. Facts Breakups are harder on men
#1 reason for male suicides
Communication is #1 reason for divorce
Divorce rate for first marriages in America are 41%
Men and women are different
Why

13. Here’s Why
Men mask their pain, women deal with it right away and get over it.
Research indicates that men depend on romantic relationships for emotional intimacy and social support, whereas women are more likely to turn to family and female friends to satisfy those needs.
Men hate starting over to get and they miss the comfort of a loved one.
Women often take care of men

14. Key Concepts for the day!
List the differences between love and infatuation and list as many predictors of a successful relationship that you can remember.
After two minutes, share your responses with a partner and “complete” your list.