2. Dad and Me

3. The last Trail was based on the importance of your beliefs and suggested 15 Principles of Manhood‡ to live by. This Trail will focus on the ways your father contributed to the development of your personal beliefs.

4. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
1. In the best interpersonal relationships, both participants in the relationship feel better as a result of their interactions with each other. (win-win) My Dad encouraged my success and did not compete with me Dad ___ Me ___

5. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
2. Creativity is highly valued; trying new ways of doing things is encouraged. My Dad allowed me to do things differently than he did them Dad ___ Me ___

6. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
3. Failure is the doorway through which success is achieved. Because of this, forgiving yourself and others must be a regular way of life. My Dad dealt positively with his imperfections and with mine Dad ___ Me ___

7. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
4. Relationships are more valuable than gold and should be protected accordingly. My Dad demonstrated that he valued our relationship Dad ___ Me ___

8. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
5. Working hard not only leads to financial or promotional rewards; it also helps us to grow internally. My Dad worked hard at developing himself on multiple levels.
Dad ___ Me ___

9. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
6. When a man has a plan with clearly established goals, he is treating the value of energy he has invested with respect. My Dad didn’t act impulsively; he made his decisions carefully Dad ___ Me ___

10. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
7. An optimistic approach to life, along with a positive attitude, is the best strategy for maximizing your well-being and your success as a man. Dad’s view of life was like a
glass half-full, not half-empty Dad ___ Me ___

11. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
8. Conflict occurs naturally as a result of a relationship between two uniquely different people Therefore, a man should not avoid conflict; he should learn from it. Dad expressed his anger appropriately and directly Dad ___ Me ___

12. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
9. A narrow self-focus diminishes the quality of life; life is best experienced when a knight has a broader perspective which is focused on others. My Dad gave to others before giving to himself and was sensitive to the needs of others Dad ___ Me ___

13. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
10. The use of your emotional I.Q. (E.Q.) enhances your relationships and provides passion to your life. My Dad was able to express the full range of emotions with love and self-control.
Dad ___ Me ___

14. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
11. True freedom is the result of setting personal standards and living by them. Dad was able to live a sober lifestyle (free from addictions). He controlled his impulses well.
Dad ___ Me ___

15. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
12. Self-discipline, which includes learning to say no to certain things and delaying gratification, is the price that a man pays for his achievements. Dad was able to manage his financial resources well Dad ___ Me ___

16. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
13. The establishment of a larger social network leads to supportive relationships which increase learning, add fun to your life and give you chances to grow in new ways. My Dad spent time with his friends and supported me in my social activities. Dad ___ Me ___

17. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
14. Each person must evaluate their own self-worth because others cannot establish their character, self-definition or identity. My Dad had confidence in himself and did not rely on power, anger, authority or money to make him who he was. Dad ___ Me___

18. Satan, our true enemy, is never trustworthy; he wants us to imitate him.
(Matthew 4:1-11)

19. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
15. A smile, a compliment and a good sense of humor add spark to your daily existence. Dad set aside time for fun; he smiled often; he complimented me regularly; he liked to joke around Dad ___ Me ___

20. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
16. Breaking up the daily responsibilities of work by creating time for relaxation is important for emotional refueling. My Dad created interesting family activities; he organized vacations which allowed all of us to relax together. Dad ___ Me ___

21. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
17. Being prejudiced against someone who is different from us is a sign of personal weakness and is not tolerated. My Dad respected me, as well as others who were different from him Dad ___ Me ___

22. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
18. Trust is a valuable gift when given from one person to another; it should never be violated or misused. My Dad could be trusted Dad ___ Me ___

23. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
19. Loving another person is a choice that causes you to value them and make sacrifices for them. If trust disappears, it is difficult to experience the practical realities of loving another person. My Dad was good at expressing love Dad ___ Me ___

24. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
20. Participating in new learning is an important part of increasing your internal strength as a man; learning about diverse topics is helpful. My Dad continued to learn throughout his life and he supported my learning in a variety of ways Dad ___ Me ___

25. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
21. A healthy marriage is hard work, but it is worth the effort. It also underscores that your commitments should be honored. My Dad was able to love, to give and to maintain his loyalty to my mother Dad ___ Me ___

26. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
22. The respect of women is an important aspect of becoming a man. My Dad respected all women and treated them in ways that reflected his respect Dad ___ Me ___

27. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
23. Taking care of your body is one of the ways that you acknowledge your value, as a man. My Dad took care of himself physically Dad ___ Me ___

28. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
24. Change is a part of life, and stepping toward it is better than running from it. My Dad was able to be flexible and make changes when it was important to do so. Dad ___ Me ___

29. As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and build a strong future for himself.
A. After each belief listed below, score your father on how much he lived according to each belief; then, score yourself on how much you live according to each belief.
1=Lives according to this belief very little
5=Follows this belief consistently through life
As a knight, you take ownership of your beliefs, and do not use your previous role models as an excuse for male behaviors/responses. A knight believes:
25. Spirituality is important to your manhood journey; you should deal honestly with your decision about a relationship with God. My Dad was able to express his faith in pragmatic ways Dad ___ Me ___
Dad’s total: _____ My total: _____

30. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
B. Check () the sentences below which are easy for you or your Dad to say.
1. “I love you.” Dad ___ Me ___
2. “I am proud of you.” Dad ___ Me ___
3. “I was wrong.” Dad ___ Me ___
4. “I am sorry.” Dad ___ Me ___

31. build a strong future for himself.
As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and
build a strong future for himself.
B. Check () the sentences below which are easy for you or your Dad to say.
5. “Please forgive me for…” Dad ___ Me ___
6. “Thank you for…” Dad ___ Me ___
7. “You are good at that” or “You can do it.” Dad ___ Me ___
8. “Could you help me?” Dad ___ Me ___

32. As a knight, you need to evaluate your Dad (father figure) in order to differentiate from him. A knight learns to assess his father’s beliefs and build a strong future for himself.
B. Check () the sentences below which are easy for you or your Dad to say.
9. “I didn’t know that.” Dad ___ Me ___
10. “I am disappointed in this behavior because…” Dad ___ Me ___

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