1. Positive Behavior Strategies
Marcello Lopez
Education Specialist, Early Childhood
Chandler Learning Academy

2. Workshop Agenda Introduction (Ice breaker)
Workshop Overview (Learning Objectives)
Child Behavior Pretest

3. Workshop Agenda Understanding Children’s Behavior (Bx)
What is NORMAL Bx for a child?
Developmental milestones game
Identifying Bx problems
Why some children misbehave
Understanding the goals of negative Bx

4. Workshop Agenda Bx Problems/Self-esteem Poker chips video
Video feedback discussion

5. Workshop Agenda Effective Bx Management
Principles of using Bx modification
Using REWARDS to encourage good Bx
IGNORING poor Bx
GIVING DIRECTIONS to the child
TIME OUT procedure

6. Workshop Agenda Positive Role-Modeling Conclusion and Evaluation
“Do unto children as you’d have them do unto you”
Conclusion and Evaluation
Review workshop (closure activity)
Child Bx quiz part II
Workshop evaluation

7. Ice Breaker!
Introductions

8. Workshop Overview
Through your participation in this workshop, you will:
Learn positive, proactive child management skills that you can use in your daily interactions.
Develop approaches that build your child’s self-esteem by using positive reinforcement as a way to handle difficult Bx.
Gain knowledge that will increase the quality of life for your child.

9. Behavior Quiz

10. Understanding Children’s Bx
What is normal Bx for a child?
Depends on child’s age, personality, physical/emotional development.
Child’s Bx may be a problem if it doesn’t match expectations of the family/if it’s disruptive
Knowing what to expect from a child at each age will help you decide what normal Bx is.

11. Piaget’s Stages of Development

12. Identifying Bx Problems
Are Bx problems common?
Bx is a complex interaction of a child’s biologic vulnerabilities, innate strengths, nurturing environment, and parenting style.
Problem in any of these areas (mismatch) may lead to undesirable Bxs.
Very strong-willed child w/parent unable to set limits

13. What Bxs might be a sign of future problems?
Too aggressive at play
Temper tantrums – severe, long, or not age appropriate
Noncompliance with requests
Intolerant of changes in routine
Always moving

14. Why some children misbehave
Children do not intentionally set out to misbehave, there is always a reason. Here are 2:
Seeking attention
Seeking power

15. Seeking Attention
Every healthy child demands attention. An important goal of parents is to supply the attention that children need to develop a healthy self-esteem.
If 90% of misbehavior is for attention, then denying attention for that negative Bx usually stops the misbehavior
Many times, ignoring the negative Bx is not enough

16. Seeking Attention
For children that require undue attention, the temptation for most parents is to scold, nag, or coax. Remember the child’s goal is to get your attention—ANY ATTENTION!—so scolding, nagging only reinforces negative Bx. If we only notice a child’s mistakes, the child will make mistakes for attention
Give the child attention, increase it, “catch” them being “good” in order to increase “good” Bx

17. Seeking Power
Some children believe they only count when they are running the show. Instead of joining the struggle, parents should take charge by acting instead of reasoning. Long discussions about why they need to do something only gives children unreasonable power over their parents.

18. Seeking Power During a power struggle
Take kind, calm, but firm, action: keep talking to a minimum!
Decide what you will do
Give them limited choices
Limited choices are perfect because it gives the child the sense of power and control they crave but with limits.
Use “First, then” language
Wait…

19. 4 Goals of Negative Bx

20. Which parenting style are we aiming for?

21. Parenting Styles Authoritative
High demands/expectations set for the child. Parent is responsive to child’s needs. Provides guidance when necessary, letting child be independent when necessary
Permissive
Parent is responsive, but does not have high expectations set for child. Parenting style usually leads to child having control over parent

22. Parenting Styles Authoritarian
Parent places high demands on child, but not responsive enough to provide guidance. Can often lead to poor self-esteem in the child if they don not succeed; violent aggressive Bx later in life
Neglectful
Parent does not place high demands on the child and is not responsive towards child’s needs. Often leads to the child having very poor self-esteem and problems interacting in social environments

23. Self-esteem Rick Lavoie “When the Chips Are Down”

24. Some humor…

25. Some humor…

26. Some humor…

27. Inspirational

28. Inspirational

29. 64 Positive things to say