1. Guidance and Discipline
Even though your kids will consistently do the exact opposite of what you're telling them to do, you have to keep loving them just as much ~Bill Cosby Supplies needed for today:
Unit 3 Study Guide

2. Children’s Book Myrranda Dalton Lindsey C. Check off Alix Brinley
Tiffany C.
Myrranda
Dalton
Lindsey C.
Reality Baby
Children’s Book

3. Today~ Re-cap of last time
Where are the Unit 2 Tests??
Moving on to Positive Guidance and Challenging Situations

4. Unit 3: Challenging Situations
Discipline

5. Which word is Negative? Start on page 4
Love
Warmth
Discipline
Laughter
NONE!
All are good!
Society uses discipline wrong which makes us think it is negative.
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6. Punishment A penalty inflicted for wrong doing, a crime or offense.
Physical or verbal attacks, negatively withholding privileges, removal, hit, spank, hurting, prison.
Demeans the child and negatively affects the relationship.
May restrain a child temporarily, but it does not teach self-discipline.
Might teach obedience to authority (out of fear),
but not self-control which enhances self-respect.

7. Discipline
The method for redirecting behavior when needed through example, words, actions, and each individual incident.
To teach and to train.
To train by instruction and exercise.
Training a behavior in accordance with rules and conduct.
A long term process that gradually leads to a child becoming responsible for their own behavior through teaching and training.

8. Discipline should be:
Firm: Clearly stated rules and consequences that are adhered to continually - when the inappropriate behavior occurs.
Fair: Appropriate punishment that fits the crime. Consequences are stated in advance, not a surprise.
Also in the case of recurring behavior, consequences should be stated in advance so the child knows what to expect. Harsh punishment is not necessary. Using a simple Time Out can be effective when it is used consistently every time the behavior occurs. Also, use of reward for a period of time like part of a day or a whole day when no Time Outs or maybe only one Time Out is received.
Friendly: Use a friendly but firm communication style when letting a child know they have behaved inappropriately and let them know they will receive the "agreed upon" consequence. Encourage them to try to remember what they should do instead to avoid future consequences. Work at "catching them being good" and praise them for appropriate behavior.

9. Guidance What caregivers do to influence behavior.
The act or function of guiding.
Giving advice or counseling.
Helping, teaching, showing.
Done Continually through
example, words, and actions.

10. Spanking Continuum Where Do you Fit?
I agree with spanking
I disagree with spanking
Where does spanking fit –
Discipline or Punishment?

11. Overall Goal of Positive Discipline
To incorporate positive discipline and guidance so the child will gain:
inner self-control
become independent
Be self-reliant
Practice self-guidance/disciplining (controlling one’s own behavior)
Even when you are not around.
PUNSHMENT DOES NOT DO THIS….
Encourage = Instill (give) courage
Discourage = Remove courage

12. Overall points of discipline:
Parent’s who punish rather than discipline may have children that rebel.
Adults who do not reinforce appropriate behavior, may have children who resort to problem behavior.
Attention is a powerful reinforcer that guides children positively or negatively.
Children often misbehave for attention. Withdraw from the conflict and resolve the problem later.
Respond to aggressive behavior in a non-aggressive way.
Feed to Live, Starve to Die

13. Reasons for a child’s misbehavior:
Remember that we all act in certain ways to meet our own needs.
Children are no different and their behavior, or misbehavior, can be understood best if the underlying need or reason for their behavior is identified.
A child misbehaves when one of the following behavioral needs are not being met:
Behavior Needs Situations- page 3

14. 1. Normal behavior for the child’s age
Have appropriate expectations for the child’s developmental age.
Strawberry pie - accidents
2. Natural curiosity
Provide opportunities to experiment and satisfy curiosity.

15. 3. They do not know any better
Inadequate or misunderstood instructions, they really are trying to do what was asked (too high of expectations).
They are trying something new and do not realize what the consequences might be.
Donut wrapper

16. 4. To get attention Feed what you want to Live,
Give attention only to that which you want to be repeated and ignore questionable or undesirable behavior.
Negative attention is still attention
Feed what you want to Live,
Starve what you want to Die.

17. 5. To get power
Children want some power and control in their lives or they become upset over the amount of control others have over them and might rebel or assert a degree of power and control.

18. 6. For revenge
Working to hurt or “get even” for what they have been made to do or feel.

19. 7. Feeling inadequate or incapable
Constantly correcting or giving negative reinforcement might make a kid quit trying because they are afraid of failing.

20. 8. The need to feel that they belong
Wanting to find a place in a family or peer group where they fit in.
This place may be positive or negative, but the need is met
Love when they are least lovable.
Focus on the child NOT on the action.

21. Behavior Needs Situations- page 5
Peter goes to church with his father. His father becomes very upset because Peter will not sit quietly. _____________
Mother asks David to help clear the table. David refuses and says,
“NO!” ______________________________
3. A father has taken his son out to fish for the first time. The boy keeps snagging his hook and getting mixed up in what he should do. He gets angry. _________________
4. It is about 11:00 A.M. Mary and John have been playing peacefully wit the tinker toys. Gradually tempers flare and they begin quarreling over the pieces and hitting each other.
___________________
5. Two boys are climbing trees. They call to a third boy to come and join them. The third boy has been told not to, but does it anyway. ____________________
6. A group of children are playing house. One child is the Mom, another is the Dad, and the rest are the children. A child asks the group if they can play and the group says, “NO.” The child goes off crying. _________________
7. A 4 year old finds a knife and uses it to try and cut a carrot. As a result, he cuts his finger. __________________
8. Jane, 3 years old, goes into her mother’s bedroom and sees a lipstick on the dresser. She opens it and paints all over her mother’s bedspread. ___________________
9. David, 5 years old, usually goes to bed without any fuss. However, tonight, mother is having a party and the child comes out of the room several times demanding attention.
10. Mary is playing with the kitten. The telephone rings and mother answers it. Immediately Mary begins hurting the kitten _________________________
11. Bonnie and Sue are playing house. Sue accidentally splashes water from the sink onto Bonnie. Bonnie fills a glass up with water and pours it onto Sue. _______________
12. A Mom takes her child out to weed the garden with her. She tells the child to sit on the grass while she runs to get her tools. When she returns, the child is gone. ____________

22. Children Learn What They Live
1. If children live with criticism, They learn to condemn
2. If children live with hostility, They learn to fight
3. If children live with fear, They learn to be apprehensive
4. If children live with pity, They learn to feel sorry for themselves
5. If children live with jealousy, They learn what envy is
6. If children live with shame, They learn to feel guilty
7. If children live with tolerance, They learn to be patient
8. If children live with encouragement, They learn to be confident
9. If children live with praise, They learn to appreciate
10. If children live with approval, They learn to like themselves
11. If children live with acceptance, They learn to find love in the world
12. If children live with recognition, They learn to have a goal
13. If children live with sharing, They learn to be generous
14. If children live with honesty and fairness, They learn what truth and justice are
15. If children live with security, They learn to have faith in themselves and in those around them
16. If children live with friendliness, They learn that the world is a nice place in which we live
17. If children live with serenity, They learn to have a peace of mind
 18. With what are your children living?
Dorthy L. Nolte

23. Discipline Video
Discipline: The First Years Last Forever

24. NEGATIVE (POSITIVE) STATEMENTS
1. Don’t run with scissors in your hand.
2. Don’t forget lunch.
3. Don’t run in the house.
4. Don’t hit her again.
5. Don’t touch anything!
6. Stop acting like a baby.
7. Don’t eat like a sloppy pig.
8. Don’t stay up so late.
9. Don’t dawdle on the way home from school.
10. Don’t slam the door.