1. Together we win
A Relational Approach to Help the Traumatized Student – Based on the book, Help for Billy

2. Andy and Billy

4. Increasing stress tolerance
Changing the Window
Increasing stress tolerance

5. Equals a chance for Change
Healthy teacher-student relationship
Regulated environment
Meeting the children’s emotional needs
Reducing stress that leads to overwhelm
Equals a chance for Change

6. Belief Systems
Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t-you’re right Henry Ford

7. Ask the Right Questions
Asking the right questions takes as much skill as giving the right answers –Robert Half

8. “How can I change Billy’s behavior?”
VS. “What is driving Billy’s behavior?”
What Else is really going on here? What does this child need? How can I change my perspective? What keeps me only looking at the behavior What is the Behavior communicating right now What in the environment could be triggering the behavior?

9. “What can I do at this very moment to improve my relationship with Billy?”

10. Create a classroom designed for regulation
The Classroom
Create a classroom designed for regulation

11. Social and Emotional Issues
Mastery of social skills directly impacts a child’s academic performance

12. What is Driving Billy’s Inability to Socialize Appropriately?
1. Socially immature- A kindergartner in a 3rd graders body. 2. Not a social thinker- difficult time reading tone, facial cues, and feelings 3. Terrified of rejection – Traumatized kids live in a state of fear every moment of every day.

13. Teaching the Traumatized Student the Four L’s
Language- need help learning social language, identifying emotions and connecting them to words Logic- Help Billy to think rationally and away from magical thinking Learning- Training Billy’s brain to properly interpret social cues and facial expression. The inability to form social relationships should be considered equal to a dyslexic student Listening- listening drills that practice keeping focused with good eye contact may be required

14. If you want children to be motivated they have to be regulated
If you want to increase academic achievement, increase relationship.
If you want children to be motivated they have to be regulated

15. Redefining the teacher-student relationship

16. Relationship Entrainment – process of actively changing the natural patterns of one object, or person, to the patterns of another object or person
Institute of Heartmath has been studying the heart’s impact on the brain. The heart creates times more amplitude than the brain. The cardiac field extends about 10 feet away from the body.
A person’s heart beat can be measured in another person’s brainwave influencing their mood, attitudes, and feelings.

17. Cultural and Personal Beliefs
“I have to get Billy to behave! I do not want to be seen as a bad teacher

18. The cord must be cut between the teacher’s effectiveness and the student’s behavior

19. Being aware of our windows of stress tolerance
Unfinished business
Being aware of our windows of stress tolerance

20. In closing  Relational Influences create motivation
“What can I do right now to connect with this child?”
If you want your student to be motivated they have to be regulated

21. References:
Help For Billy, by Heather T. Forbes, LCSW