1. Healthy Relationships
Susan Case-Harry

2. Activity 3 Teams of 2 One of Each Pair Blindfolded Observe
Identify Qualities for Success
Identify objects and what they mean
What are the components of healthy relationships?
Turn to Neighbor and Discuss
Which person would you want to be your partner for this activity?

3. 10 Most Important Qualities
Make a list of the 10 most important qualities in a person, mate, loved one

4. Do you have these qualities?
You must possess these qualities before you require the people around you to have these qualities

5. Attributes of Relationships
Healthy
Unhealthy
A healthy relationship means that both you and your partner are…
Communicating
Respectful
Trusting
Honest
Equal
Enjoy Personal Space/Time
Make Consensual Decisions
An unhealthy relationship starts when even just one of you is…
Not Communicating
Disrespectful
Not Trusting
Dishonest
Trying to Take Control
Feeling smothered or forgetting to spend time with others
Pressuring for Unhealthy Activity and/or Ignoring Consequences

6. Attributes of Relationships
Abusive
An abusive relationship starts when just one of you:
Communicates abusively
During disagreements there is screaming, cussing, or threatening, or these things happen even when there is no argument. A partner is demeaning or insulting toward the other.
Is disrespectful through abuse
A partner intentionally and continuously disregards your feelings and physical safety.
Falsely accuses the other of flirting or cheating
A partner suspects flirting or cheating without reason and accuses the other, often harming their partner verbally or physically as a result.
Doesn’t take responsibility for the abuse
The violent or verbally abusive partner denies or minimizes their actions. They try to blame the other for the harm they’re doing.
Controls the other partner
There is no equality in the relationship. What one partner says goes, and if the other partner tries to change this there is increased abuse.
Isolates the other partner
One partner controls where the other one goes, who the other partner sees and talks to. The other partner has no personal space and is often isolated from other people altogether.

7. Healthy
Communication You talk openly about problems without shouting or yelling. You listen to one another, hear each other out, respect each other’s opinions, and are willing to compromise. Respect You value each other as you are. Culture, beliefs, opinions and boundaries are valued. You treat each other in a way that demonstrates the high esteem you hold for one another. Trust You both trust each other, and the trust has been earned. Honesty You are both honest with each other but can still choose to keep certain things private. For example, you both know that it is important to be honest about things that affect or involve the relationship and still know that it is also ok to keep certain things private
Equality You make decisions together and you hold each other to the same standards. Enjoy Personal Space You both enjoy spending time apart and respect when one of you voices a need for space. Make Consensual Decisions You talk openly about decisions together. You both consent to activities and can talk about what is ok and what isn’t. If you’re making major decisions, you talk about possible consequences together. You decide together how to address these things. Attune

8. Statistics
About one in five high school girls report having been physically abused by a dating partner.[1]
One in three teens report having a boyfriend or girlfriend who demanded to know where they were at all times.
One in four teens who have been in a serious relationship say that a boyfriend or girlfriend has tried to prevent them from spending time with friends or family;
The same number have been pressured to only spend time with their boyfriend or girlfriend.[2]
[1] Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2010). Choose respect: Dating violence facts.
[2] Loveisrespect.org. (2011). Dating abuse fast facts. Retrieved from

9. Questions
Write down 5 questions you always wanted to ask the opposite gender
Ask questions following guidelines
Answer questions honestly and respectfully

10. Discussion
Male
Female
List Answer
List Answers

11. Unhealthy or Abusive Relationships
You are in control of your life!
Value Yourself
Talk to a trusted adult
Be Strong
If you need help call National Domestic Violence Hotline

12. Resources
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call 911.
LGBTQ crisis & suicide line: U-TREVOR ( )
Websites
National Hotlines
Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN): HOPE ( )
Runaway: RUNAWAY ( )
Childhelp USA: A-CHILD ( )
Teen Dating Abuse Helpline: TTY
STI & HIV Hotline (CDC): CDC-INFO ( )
Teen Emergency (Girls’ & Boys’ Town):
Alcohol & Substance Abuse:
LGBTQ Emergency: TEEN ( )
Planned Parenthood:
Suicide: SUICIDE ( )