1. Sexual assault and rape, how to help a friend

2. Recap What is consent?

3. Learning journey To recap on the definition of rape and acknowledge rape can happen in a relationship To consider how the victim might feel about reporting the assault To know how to advise a friend, and offer support

4. Spiralling Watch the second half of the NSPCC / National Youth Theatre ‘Spiralling’ video from about 10 minutes in. Or watch this clip – it starts from the correct point, but pause it at 2 mins 30 seconds. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V_gKQDPZ4 Y0

5. Your body, your mind Write on the inside the feelings you think Lucy might have following the assault from Nathan. confused shocked hurt

6. Your body, your mind Now around the inside, think about how others might respond to her allegation.

7. Who will believe me? Why do you think most rapes go unreported? What can be done about this?

8. Spiralling Resume clip 2min30sec - 4min 20 sec Watch Lucy tell her friend about what happened. How does Lucy feel after talking to her friend? Who should the friend believe? What would you do in this situation?

9. Spiralling final clip Watch 4min20sec – 7 min Consider if the friend goes about it the right way? (Or to the end, 9min, if you wish)

10. Hot seating 3 pupils to play the characters: Lucy, Nathan and Friend – read the card. The rest of the class prepare questions to ask. The ‘hot seating characters’ reply in role

11. This is abuse http://thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk/faq/view/6/w orried-about-abuse Click on the I’m worried about a friend and find out what to do

12. I THINK MY FRIEND IS BEING ABUSED BY THEIR PARTNER. WHAT SHOULD I DO? If you think you can spot some of the warning signs of abuse in your friend’s relationship, the person who is being abused needs professional help and your encouragement and support to stop it. Approach the subject in a sensitive way, such as saying ‘I am worried about you because….’. Let them know that the abuse is not their fault, it’s unacceptable and that support is available. It can be useful to think up a code word that they can use on the phone to let you know they need help. Don't ignore the issue if you think it is happening. When you try to talk to them, try not to make them feel judged as it takes courage to admit abuse. Encourage them to talk to a trusted adult, and if their partner has been violent or forced them to have sex, encourage them to talk to the police. You shouldn’t confront their partner on your own and neither should your friend. If your friend wants to speak to someone in confidence encourage them to contact these helplines: For girls - National Domestic Violence Helpline 0808 2000 247 For boys - Respect 0808 801 0327 Childline 0800 11 11 http://thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk/faq/view/6/worried-about-abuse

13. In groups Decide on a top 3 things you can do to help a friend 1 2 3

14. Helping a friend Plenary Using the iphone text sheet, create a conversation offering some support to a friend.

15. The Site http://www.thesite.org/crime-and- safety/victims-of-crime/was-it-rape-9143.html

16. What happens when you report a rape? http://www.thesite.org/crime-and-safety/victims- of-crime/was-it-rape-9143.html Scroll down and watch the 6 min clip KS4 ONLY It is a detailed account about what happens when you access medical support after rape. Please check everyone is ok to see this, and that there is an opt out.

17. National Support Services Rape Crisis offers support and advice to victims of rape and sexual assault, no matter how long ago the attack was. 0808 802 99 99 Rape Crisis Survivors UKoffers advice and support to male victims of rape and sexual assault. 0845 122 1201 Survivors UK

18. Survivors Network Brighton (SN) Men and women 6a Pavilion Buildings Brighton East Sussex BN1 1EE Area: South East Helpline: 01273 720110 Helpline Opening Hours: 7pm - 9pm on Wednesdays and Fridays Email:help@survivorsnetwork.org.uk Web:http://www.survivorsnetwork.org. ukhelp@survivorsnetwork.org.ukhttp://www.survivorsnetwork.org. uk Phone Number(s): 01273 203380 Text 07717 999989 1:1 counselling for women aged 14 yrs + 1:1 counselling for young men 14 – 18 yrs ISVA service for women and men 14 yrs + Women only drop-in Monday and Thursday evenings Telephone/ email / text helpline Specialist ISVA, counselling and groupwork for young people 14 – 25 yrs Email helpline help@survivorsnetwork.org.uk Women and girls only space during Monday and Thursday drop-in Local Support Services