1. Sexting and Staying Safe Online
Lesson outcomes:
Find out what sexting is and the legal issue around this
Learn about the ways you can stay safe online

2. What is Sexting? What is sexting?
When people talk about sexting, they usually refer to sending and receiving:
naked pictures or 'nudes'
'underwear shots'
sexual or 'dirty pics'
rude text messages or videos. 
They can be sent from a friend, boyfriend, girlfriend or someone you've met online. You might have also sent a sexual photo, video or text to someone else.
We understand how easily sexting can happen and how things can go wrong – even when you didn’t mean for them to.

3. Dangers and Consequences
I saw your willy
What are the consequences for Alex in this animation?
Is this what he intended to happen?
What dangers did Alex experience as a consequence of the message?
Sexting
Is sexting illegal?
It may be common but 'sexting' is illegal. By sending an explicit image, a young person is producing and distributing child abuse images and risks being prosecuted, even if the picture is taken and shared with their permission.

4. Why do people Sext? Exposed- play video
In pairs think about the reasons why people sext- feedback to class
feel like 'everyone else is doing it' and want to fit in with in with friends - especially if they are boasting about sending or having photos on their mobile phone
worry about being seen as 'not sexy', 'frigid' or 'shy' and go along with things you're uncomfortable with
feel under pressure to sext as a way of ‘proving’ your sexuality
feel harassed, threatened or blackmailed into sending pictures
feel it's easier just to ‘give in’ to somebody who keeps asking for things
think you ‘owe’ your boyfriend or girlfriend or made to feel guilty if you don’t do what they ask you for
be in love with the person and trust them completely and feel like it’s okay
have a long distance or online relationship with someone and want to have a sexual relationship with them

5. Someone keeps asking me for photos. What should I do?
Sometimes people send photos because they are indirectly made to feel guilty.
For example, somebody might be saying “I sent you a photo, so where’s mine?” or say that you “promised” them that you would send a picture. This is also a form of emotional blackmail and can make you think that you 'owe' them when you do not.
You have the right to say no and not be pressured into doing anything you don’t want to do. Sex and sexual activity of any kind is something people do together to feel good – not something which can be ‘owed’. You don’t have to do anything you don't want to do - even if you are in a relationship or have done sexual things with that person before.
In pairs go through each of these questions and work out what you would say;
I’ve been sent a rude photo. what do I do?
An adult has sent me a sexual message. What should I do?
How do I block someone online?
How do I block someone from calling or texting me?
Someone is threatening to share photos of me and using blackmail. What should I do?
I’ve sent a photo to someone and I wish I hadn’t, what can I do?
A picture of me is going round school what should I do?
Photos of me have been posted on the internet what can I do?

6. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT!
Before you send a photo, what should you think about?
What could happen to it?
Once you press send, it is no longer in your control. It can be posted anywhere on the internet. It could end up on social networking sites or even porn sites.
Who might see it?
Don’t send anything you wouldn’t want your parents, teachers or friends seeing. Even if you completely trust someone, other people using their phone might accidently see it.
What are the risks?
Even if you use a webcam or an app like Snapchat, the person can take a screen shot in seconds.
Who are you sending it to?
Would you feel weird if you were going to do something sexual with them in person? Would you be able to have a conversation about sex with them? 
Why do you want to send it?
If you want to impress somebody, you can do it in other ways. In most cases, sexting can have the opposite effect and you could be seen as somebody you’re not.
Download ChildLine's free Zipit app for loads of great comebacks if someone's trying to get you to send them a sexual image.

7. Where else can I go for help?
Always talk to teachers and parents first
Other sites that can help;
Advice on staying safe online Think U Know?
CEOP is here to help young people report somebody CEOP Reporting site
You & Co has advice about sexting and the law. You & Co

8. Watch this
What are your feelings about this video- discuss with your partner and feedback to the class

9. Staying Safe Online
What apps, games and websites are there online that enable you to chat to people?
List them (together on the board) and for each one identify whether it offers private chat, group chat, or both.
What are the advantages and risks of private chat and group chat?

10. Bixo442 Hey! X MicaX0X Hi Ur fit r u single? Yep, u? I’m single 2!
The following is a conversation that took place on WhatsApp between two people playing an online game;
Bixo442
Hey! X
MicaX0X Hi
Ur fit r u single?
Yep, u?
I’m single 2!
Niceeee!
Do u go on Cam??
Yeh
Look at this conversation together in pairs on the sheet and fill in the thinking and feeling bubbles for each person.

11. What did MicaXOX and Bixo442 know about each other before this chat?
What kind of things are they interested in finding out about each other?
Why are they chatting to each other? What are their intentions?
What are they thinking and how are they feeling as the conversation goes on?
Is there anything worrying about this conversation? What might happen next?

12. I have a vid of me with my friend! We both naked
Let’s read through the next part of their conversation;
MicaX0X
I have a vid of me with my friend! We both naked
together, messin around...;)
Bixo442
That’s soooo hot. Send it to my mobile
What do I get?
What doya want? I’ll strip for you?
I don’t wanna just see ur body, I can see that anywhere! How about u do dirty stuff 4 me on cam? Ok
Complete both the Feeling and Thinking bubbles for both in your pairs.

13. What has changed in the way they are talking, and who started this?
• How do you think Bixo442 feels at the start of this conversation? How do you think she or he might feel at the end?
• How does MicaX0X persuade Bixo442 to do sexual things on cam?
• What do you think might happen next?

14. MicaX0X
I recorded everything. 8 mins!!!
Ur mine. I’m sending it to yr
friends haha
Bixo442
Please im begging you. Why???
What will u do for your social
life? Are you willing 2 do
anything?
Gonna tell my dad
Ok do it. Hes gonna see you and
so will your friends!!!
Plz delete
No. I dnt care who u tell they dnt
know where I am
Please dnt do this! Im begging u!!

15. What has MicaXOX done?
• Why do you think he or she is doing this?
• Should Bixo442 do what MicaXOX tells him/her to?
• What should he or she do to get help?
Bixo442’s name is Ben and he is a 14 year old boy. Imagine you are his friend. He tells you what has happened and asks your advice.
On your iPad in pairs visit the ‘Cam Sex’ page at Thinkuknow.co.uk/14_plus and try to find 3 solutions for Ben.

16. Feedback to the class;
Show them it’s never too late to get help.
Support them to get help – talk to an adult you trust, speak to ChildLine or report to CEOP. CEOP have dealt with many cases like this and will understand.
Help them weigh up the pros and cons.
If they’re worried about getting support help them to think about the positives and negatives of telling someone about their problem.
Tell them about the lies people who abuse tell.
If someone is blackmailing your friend with pictures or videos they might be telling them lies to try to control them. Find out more about their lies here.
Talk to them about how they are feeling.
Let them know that all problems can be solved with support. Help them get support from an adult you trust or ChildLine.
Help them report to CEOP.
Whoever is threatening your friend is committing a serious crime. They should report it to CEOP. CEOP has dealt with loads of cases like this and will understand. They will support your friend. They will also find the person behind it so the police can arrest them.

17. The end of the story
MicaXOX went through with his threat and did share the video on YouTube. Ben was very brave and told his dad, and together they made a report to CEOP. The video was quickly taken offYouTube. The police found and arrested MicaXOX. He was a 28 year old manwho had done the same thing to at least 34 other young people.

18. Warning Signs
With your partner read back through the conversation and make a list of the warning signs that MicaXOX might have bad intentions?
These warning signs can help us decide if someone we are chatting to might have bad intentions. If you ever think this is a possibility, what should you do?
stop the chat immediately, tell a trusted adult and consider making a report to CEOP