2 Good Morning! 2/26/14 Today’s Agenda: Friday or Tuesday: Video on Parenting stylesGuiding childrens behavior notesPositive communication worksheetFriday or Tuesday:Test on parenting and guiding behavior
3 Vocabulary Conscience: an inner sense of what is right Guidance: using firmness and understanding to help children learn to control their own behaviorNegative reinforcement: a response aimed at discouraging a child from repeating a behavior (example – punishment)Positive reinforcement: a response that encourages a particular behavior
4 VocabularySelf-discipline: children’s ability to control their own behaviorTime-out: short period of time in which a child sits away from other people and activity (rule – 1 minute for each year of life)
5 What is guidance?Using firmness and understanding to help children learn to control their own behavior.Punishment? It’s a small part of it, but very small.The result of effective guidance will be self-discipline.
6 How do you guide effectively? Consistency, consistency, consistency!Being consistent is the key!Make the rules clear to the childApply them the same way in all situationsLet’s children know what is expected of them and what the response will be from good/bad behaviorImportant when there’s more than one person caring for a child-all need to be on same page
7 Encouraging appropriate behavior Young children don’t know what the “right” behavior is; they have to be taughtSet a good example – model the behavior you want from them. The love to imitate!Tell them what you expect – short directions for under 3 years old, then more details and explanations. Expectations MUST be clear!
8 Praise appropriate behavior – They want attention Praise appropriate behavior – They want attention! If they get attention and approval for a behavior, they will repeat it.Be specificNotice the behavior as soon as possibleRecognize small stepsHelp the child take pride in his or her actionsTailor the encouragement to the needs of the child (things of particular difficulty for them)
9 Positive communication Don’t run!Don’t touch that!Don’t hit!Don’t leave your toys on the floor!Don’t yell in the house!
10 Walk, please!Let’s not touch that because it’s not yours, let’s go play with…We are nice to our friends and keep our hands to ourselvesPut your toys away when you’re done playing with themUse your inside voice when indoors
11 Good Afternoon! 2/25/13 Monday’s almost over Today we are: Reviewing positive talkLearning about giving choices to young childrenWhy???Reviewing for Workplace Readiness TestWednesday:Workplace Readiness Test
12 Offering choicesChildren want control! They have very little of it, so any amount of choice for them is powerful!Give choices whenever possibleWhich of these 2 outfits do you want to wear?Which of these 3 books do you want to read?Do you want peanut butter or grilled cheese for lunch?
13 Setting limits Help children know what is appropriate and safe Physical restrictions – not going into the street, not hitting, staying in the parkLimits should be clear and consistent
14 How do you set limits? Think about: Does the limit allow the child to learn, explore and grow?Is the limit fair and appropriate for the child’s age?Does the limit benefit the child, or is it for the adult’s convenience?
15 When setting limits… Show understanding of the child’s desires Set the limit and explain itAcknowledge the child’s feelingsGive alternatives