HUBUNGAN ROMANTIS by Shinta Prastyanti

INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION

WHAT ATTRACTS YOU TO ANOTHER PERSON???

INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION Is the attraction between people which leads to friendship and romantic relationship? What attracts? a function of socially shared norms, along with preferred characteristic derived from people’s learning histories

Factors in attraction Familiarity - proximity Reciprocity - I like him because he likes me

Factors in attraction Reward theory Liking those whose behavior is rewarding or who are associated with rewarding situations Attitude similarity more attracted to people who hold similar attitude to our own than dissimilar to others

Physical attractiveness - good looking - body shape - voices - style or fashion sense - smell

MATE SELECTION

FACTORS IN SELECTION FAMILIARITY RECIPROCITY WHAT DO WE WANT FROM OUR MATE? MENWOMEN -KINDNESS -LOYALTY -EMOTIONAL STABILITY -YOUTHFULNESS -SEX -KINDNESS -LOYALTY -EMOTIONAL STABILITY -EDUCATION -EARNING POTENTIAL -STATUS -AMBITION

ROMANTIC LOVE

TYPES OF LOVE LIMERENCE/PASSIONATE - intense longing for the person - much more emotionally volatile - motivate sexual activity

COMPANIONATE LOVE - feelings of mutual respect and trust - less emotionally volatile - establish firm emotional bond between the partners that will motivate them to remain together

Strenberg’s tripartite theory of love Passion: motivational component Intimacy: emotional component Commitment: cognitive component

FUNCTION OF ROMANTIC LOVE WHAT THE MEANING OF…… I LOVE YOU?

FUNCTION OF ROMANTIC LOVE THE 3 BASIC BEHAVIORAL SYSTEM THAT BOND COUPLES TOGETHER (SHAVER) 1. LOVE AS ATTACHMENT 2. LOVE AS CAREGIVING 3. LOVE AS SEXUAL ATTRACTION

WHAT THE FUNCTION OF EMOTION IN RELATIONSHIP?

As a good barometer of how close individuals feel to their partners Can communicate that one truly cares about a partner and a relationship

LOVE HAS TAUGHT US THAT LOVE DOES NOT CONSIST IN GAZING AT EACH OTHET, BUT IN LOOKING OUTWARD TOGETHER I N THE SAME DIRECTION ANTOINE DE SAINT-EXUPERY