Sex and Relationships Education – Rise Park Catherine Kirk – SRE Consultant

Where/how did you learn about sex and relationships?

For young people, their learning comes from…

Why is SRE important? Entitlement Earlier puberty Unwanted conceptions Sexually transmitted infections Safeguarding Grooming Child Sexual Exploitation Abuse Sexting Online porn

What is effective SRE? Age-appropriate Based on true needs of pupils Progressive Inclusive Delivered safely by trained staff Prepares children adequately for puberty Prepares children for adult life Promotes positive relationships

Does it work – what’s the evidence? Those receiving good quality SRE are more likely to: -Delay their first sexual experience -Use condoms or contraception -Have less sexual partners Kirby 2007

View from Ofsted Required improvement in over a third of schools Children not prepared for puberty Primary – too much emphasis on friendships and relationships

Your rights as a parent To be informed of SRE curriculum and policy To be consulted about changes To withdraw my child from SRE lessons (outside of national curriculum science)

Consultation with children Create two characters of their age What sort of things do they like to do? What do they need to know now? What do they need to know at age 13? Tell me about this picture..

What do they need to know now? Year 2 Mainly about rules and keeping safe Year 4 Body changes (growing bigger, voice change); marriage and dates (dating wouldn’t start til secondary school) Year 6 Hormones; body changes; relationships with family and friends; gender and sexuality; gender stereotypes.

What do they need to know later? Year 2 Internet safety; knives; stranger danger. Year 4 Bullying; internet safety; having babies; knew about periods but thought this was hair growing under armpits. Year 6 Same things as at year 6; not to have a baby at 13.

Where has the baby come from? Year 2 Scotland; found on doorstep; lost and found shop; a seed from daddy or a plant/ocean; god; growth; staying in bed; telepathically Year 4 I’m not saying; you eat a seed; from god; a man and a girl do thingamajig (sex); share DNA and then it turns into a seed; sperm like a tadpole; confusion about how a woman could be pregnant without a man. Year 6 Lots of giggling; womb; egg; sperm; testicles

How does the baby get out? Year 2 Push it out; belly button; out of your private bits; the pelvis; hospital. Year 4 Their bottom or their tummy; go to hospital sit in a chair and push and it comes out of their tummy; they have to cut the belly open. Year 6 Woman knows she is in labour because water comes out; vagina; if something’s wrong cut open her belly

Other Giggles/embarrassment (Yr6) Struggled to name body parts Some talked to parents/carers Use of word ‘gay’ as insult (Yr2) Gender stereotypes Wanted more SRE than they had had (Yr6) Single gender groups (Yr6) Teachers to deliver (Yr6)

Year 6 ‘….if I hadn’t talked to my mum I probably wouldn’t know a lot at all’.

Recommendations Introduce children to the scientific language to describe body parts in key stage 1. Challenge use of ‘gay’ as insult and do work around different families Gender roles/sterotypes Begin to explore puberty changes in year 4 Use a resource to deliver SRE in a progressive way across the school Ensure that those children in Years 5 and 6 receive SRE input as soon as possible prepared for the onset of puberty. Consider single gender, teacher delivered sessions

The Christopher Winter Project SRE resource for primary schools summary Catherine Kirk SRE Consultant

Reception Our day -Routines of the day and how to look after themselves Keeping ourselves clean -Why hygiene is important and basic hygiene routines Families -Recognise that all families are different and understand how family members can help each other

Reception Vocabulary Dress, undress Clean, smelly Flannel, sponge, towel, hands, toothpaste, toothbrush, hairbrush, comb Family, mum, dad, brother, sister, grandma, grandad, stepmum, stepdad

Year 1 Keeping clean -Basic washing and cleanliness Growing and changing -To know that people change and grow, to understand that babies become children and then adults, to know the difference between boy and girl babies (pictures) Families and care -To know which people to ask for help, to know there are different types of families

Year 1 Vocabulary Clean Similar, different Family, boy, girl, male, female Body parts, penis, vagina

Year 2 Differences between boys and girls -Describe the differences between boy and girl babies, to talk about similarities and differences between boys and girls in relation to gender stereotypes. Differences between males and females -To describe differences between male and female animals Naming the body parts -(pictures)

Year 2 Vocabulary Similar, different Sex, gender roles, stereotypes Boy, girl, male, female Body parts, penis, vagina

Year 3 Differences between males and females -Name body parts and discuss similarities and differences (worksheet) Personal space -To talk about appropriate and inappropriate touch and to learn about personal space Family differences -To understand who to go to for support, to understand that families are different and have different members

Year 3 Vocabulary Stereotypes, gender roles, similar, different Male, female, body parts, penis, vagina Family, fostering, adoption, relationships

Year 4 Growing and changing -To understand the human lifecycle and to describe the body changes that happens when a child grows up Body changes and reproduction -To understand basic facts about puberty, reproduction and pregnancy What is puberty -To learn about the physical and emotional changes associated with puberty

Year 4 Vocabulary Puberty, lifecycle, reproduction, pregnancy Physical, breasts, sperm, egg, pubic hair Emotions, feeling

Year 5 Talking about puberty -To discuss the main physical and emotional changes that occur during puberty Male and female changes -To describe how to manage physical and emotional change Puberty and hygiene -To explain how to keep clean and to know how to get help and support during puberty

Year 5 Vocabulary Puberty, physical changes, emotional changes Moods, menstruation, periods, tampons, sanitary towels Wet dreams, semen, erection Sweat, breasts, spots, pubic hair, facial hair, underarm hair Sexual feelings

Year 6 Puberty and reproduction -To describe how and why the body changes during puberty in preparation for reproduction Relationships and reproduction -To explain how babies are made and the types of adult relationship Conception and pregnancy -To know some basic facts about pregnancy and conception. To describe the decisions that have to be made before having a baby

Year 6 Vocabulary Womb, egg Sperm, conception, fertilisation, contraception, pregnancy, sexual intercourse Twins, fostering, adoption Relationships, friendships, love, consent, intimacy Communication, personal/private information, internet safety

Partnership with parents Keep informed of what is being delivered and when Talk to your children about what they’ve been learning Buy books to read together Use the PANTS campaign Use stories on soaps, etc. to start discussions Buy products to support them with puberty

Support for parents – underwear rule