Lifeskills Program for AdolescentsWelcome Sex Supported by “On Track” Community Health Project Mallee Track Health & Community Service

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents What WE are looking at today Sex / Lust / Choice

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents What is Sex? Male or Female Communication between couples Pleasure between couples Demonstration of Feelings/Affection Provides Intimacy Making Babies or Just for FUN

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents So Why do Adolescents have Sex?

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents

WHY NOT? Reason Boys Girls % of Responses Not ready / interested36%35% “It’s Illegal”28%11% Safer19%39% Parents17%15%

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents

What is Love? It is based on friendship, affection, mutual respect, admiration, thoughtfulness, sharing and caring Involves good communication and listening

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Does not involve any physical, emotional or sexual violence Is not instant or perfect Love at first sight is more likely to be lust at first sight Source: Unzipped: Everything teenagers want to know about Love, Sex and Each other, B. Donaghy

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents What is Lust? Is a physical response that involves sexual arousal It is being “turned on” sexually Is a short-term emotion

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Can get you into trouble (ie lust can make you do something you wouldn’t normally do, eg not using a condom) LUST...Is not always love You can love and lust at the same time, but they are not the same thing Source: Unzipped: Everything teenagers want to know about Love, Sex and Each other, B. Donaghy

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Do YOU have a CHOICE? YES or NO

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents The Choice is YOURS 3 A’s Abstinence A ctivity A ll the Way

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents What is sexual activity? Masturbation …..? Kissing, Pashing …..? Feeling, touching someone else ….? Mutual masturbation …..? Oral sex …..?

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Or All the WAY Anal intercourse …..? Bonking, sexual intercourse …..? Source: Bernard J. Denner

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Sexual Activity Needs Permission or Consent Source: Bernard J. Denner

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Questions to ask …. If you are thinking of having sex...

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Do I feel old enough and responsible enough to be doing this? Am I doing this for me or for him / her? Am I prepared to use a condom?

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents If something goes wrong and we become pregnant, am I prepared for that responsibility? Am I just trying to prove something to myself or him / her? How will I feel about him / her afterwards?

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents How will I feel about myself? Has Sex - Solved the Problem? Has Sex - made me Feel Better? Source: Unzipped: Everything teenagers want to know about Love, Sex and Each other, B. Donaghy

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents What is sex for? There are several main answers to the question “what is sex for?” and many people feel that the ‘true’ answer is a combination of these:

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Sex is for the survival of the species (human beings). Sex is for making babies. Sex is part of partnership; it cements the relationship. Sex is showing feelings of love or affection between people.

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Sex is for pleasure. Sex is better between committed couples. Good Sex is more than just Bonking.

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents The Perils of Sex Without Love and Unprotected Sex

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Unwanted Pregnancy Sexual Diseases Interrupted Study Alienation from friends Depression Being used

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Always check the Use By Date on condoms to ensure that they are effective. Use a lubricant to ensure condom doesn’t break. The Pill does not always WORK Medication Drunk and Vomit

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Adolescence is a GOOD TIME of Life ENJOY IT