RELATIONSHIPS ESTABLISHING SOMETHING HEALTHY

BOARD PROMPT Designate a scribe for your groups response Designate a scribe for your groups response

STATISTICS 50 SHADES OF GREY Fifty Shades of Grey has topped best-seller lists around the world, including those of the United Kingdom and the United States. The series has sold over 125 million copies worldwide by June 2015 and has been translated into 52 languages, and set a record in the United Kingdom as the fastest-selling paperback of all time

STATISTICS ON TWILIGHT SAGA As of November 2011, the series has sold over 120 million copies worldwide with translations into at least 38 different languages around the globe. The four Twilight books have consecutively set records as the biggest selling novels of 2008 on the USA Today Best-Selling Books list and have spent over 235 weeks on the New York Times Best Seller list for Children's Series Books.

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THE ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP CYCLE Tension building phase Tension building phase Emotional abuse or threats Emotional abuse or threats Violent episode phase Violent episode phase Act of physical abuse occurs: choking or hitting Act of physical abuse occurs: choking or hitting Honeymoon phase Honeymoon phase Couple makes-up Couple makes-up This phase is often the reason people stay in abusive relationship This phase is often the reason people stay in abusive relationship

ABUSE Is any physical or emotional harm to someone. Is any physical or emotional harm to someone. Neglect- when a caretaker fails to provide basic needs: food, clothing, or love Neglect- when a caretaker fails to provide basic needs: food, clothing, or love Child abuse Child abuse 3 million cases of child abouse are reported every year in the US. 3 million cases of child abouse are reported every year in the US.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Is the use of force to control and maintain power over a spouse in the home Is the use of force to control and maintain power over a spouse in the home Former spouse, fiancé, boyfriend, girlfriend can also commit domestic violence Former spouse, fiancé, boyfriend, girlfriend can also commit domestic violence

HAZING Harassing newcomers to a group in an abusive and humiliating was Harassing newcomers to a group in an abusive and humiliating was Sports teams, clubs, sororities, and fraternities Sports teams, clubs, sororities, and fraternities

EFFECTS OF ABUSE Depression Depression Low self-esteem Low self-esteem Poor appetite or overeating Poor appetite or overeating Low energy or fatigue Low energy or fatigue Poor concentration Poor concentration Difficulty sleeping Difficulty sleeping Feelings of worthlessness Feelings of worthlessness Feelings of guilt, shame, and anxiety Feelings of guilt, shame, and anxiety

PROTECTING YOURSELF Create a supportive network of friends and family Create a supportive network of friends and family Avoid disrespectful people Avoid disrespectful people Be assertive Be assertive Show disapproval Show disapproval

SEXUAL ABUSE AND VIOLENCE

SEXUAL ABUSE CONTINUED

SEXUAL HARASSMENT

RESPONDING TO SEXUAL HARASSMENT

SEXUAL ASSAULT AND RAPE

HELP AFTER SEXUAL ASSAULT

RAPE Unlawful sexual intercourse without consent of the victim Unlawful sexual intercourse without consent of the victim Things to remember Things to remember The victim is not to blame The victim is not to blame Rape is not about love Rape is not about love Rape is not always violent Rape is not always violent

DATE RAPE Many times drugs or alcohol play into effect Many times drugs or alcohol play into effect these lower a persons inhibitions these lower a persons inhibitions Often times drugs that are used are named “date rape drugs” and are mixed into drinks Often times drugs that are used are named “date rape drugs” and are mixed into drinks rohypnol rohypnol GHB GHB Ketamine Ketamine

PROTECTING YOURSELF Don’t spend time alone with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable Don’t spend time alone with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable Stay aware Stay aware Be clear Be clear Don’t let peer pressure influence you Don’t let peer pressure influence you Go out with a group of friends Go out with a group of friends

GETTING HELP AFTER RAPE If you are hurt go directly to the ER If you are hurt go directly to the ER Call a trusted friend or adult Call a trusted friend or adult Report the rape Report the rape Call HOPE for help and guidance Call HOPE for help and guidance Write down as much as you can remember Write down as much as you can remember Seek counseling Seek counseling

CONSENT What is consent? What is consent?