ATTRACTION AND CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS Chapter 9
Desire to establish and maintain social contact with other Need for Affiliation
Factors that Influence Affiliation Needs Evolution Biology Culture Gender
Loneliness A feeling of deprivation about existing social relations Shyness
Situational Factors that Trigger Affiliation Needs The Proximity Effect Familiarity The mere exposure effect Anxiety Schachter’s anxiety research
Physical Attractiveness Bias for beauty is pervasive What-is-beautiful-is-good stereotype: Tendency to associate physical attractiveness with other desirable qualities.
Physical Attractiveness Beauty is an objective quality.
Physical Attractiveness Beauty is a subjective quality.
Situational factors influencing perceptions of beauty
First Encounters Liking other who are similar Demographics Attitudes Bryne’s Two Step Model of Attraction
First Encounters Liking others who are similar Physical attractiveness The matching hypothesis The complementarity hypothesis Reciprocity
Mate Selection Evolutionary PerspectiveSociocultural Perspective
Figure 9.6: Evolutionary Mate Preferences: Theory and Practice
Intimate Relationships Social exchange theory
Intimate Relationships Equity Theory Your Benefits = Your Partner’s Benefits Your Contributions Your Partner’s Contributions
Types of Relationships Exchange vs Communal Attachment styles Anxious Avoidant Secure
Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
Passionate Love Romantic love characterized by high arousal, intense attraction and fear of rejection. Excitation transfer: the process whereby arousal caused by one stimulus is added to the arousal from a second stimulus and the combined arousal is attributed to the second stimulus.
Companionate Love A secure, trusting, stable partnership. Is the diminution of passion genetically pre- determined? Self-disclosure: sharing intimate facts and feeling.
From a Sliver to a Wedge Theory of Social Penetration
Relationship Issues The Marriage Trajectory
Lucas, Clark & Diener (2003): 15 year study of over 24,000 individuals living in Germany Are married people happier than unmarried people?
The Gottman Relationship Institute: John Gottman