Resolving Conflict & Preventing Violence - Conflict - Date Rape

1. What is conflict? 2. When I think of the word conflict, I think of What types of conflicts have you experienced in your life? 4. Pretend that you are having a conflict with a friend of yours. What are some different ways the conflict can be resolved? 5. When you are in a conflict situation with a friend, how can you show your friend that you are listening? 6. Do the words “conflict” and “violence” mean the same thing to you? Explain.

Conflict- any disagreement, struggle, or fight Interpersonal conflict-disagreement between two or more people Internal conflict- within self

Power struggles Loyalty Jealousy/Envy Property Disputes Territory & Space

What cause conflict to escalate?

Compromise – give and take Negotiation – use of communication settle disagreements - Calm Down -Explain Side (take turns) - Understand each others position - Brainstorm solutions - Agree Solution Mediation – neutral third party helping negotiation Neutral, Confidentiality, Ground Rules

Peer Mediation – students run mediation

* Answer the questions on your own to the quiz. After our notes we will get with a partner and see if any of our answers changed.

Sexual assault- intentional sexual attack Rape – any form of sexual intercourse against their will Date Rape – happens dating situation Acquaintance rape- the person being raped knows the rapist * Someone under the influence of alcohol or drugs CANNOT give legal consent (say yes)

REMEMBER Don’t assume Create open and honest conversation Don’t assume intimacy is your right If you aren’t sure ASK Do I have to ask? Sexual contact WITHOUT consent = SEXUAL ASSAULT

1) Under 13 can not give consent 2) Cannot give consent “care of duty” 3) Mentally of Physically handicapped person can not give consent Date Rape Video 20/20 Date Rape Video 20/20 -

* Know someone well * Date people close to your age * Set clear sexual boundaries * Avoid being completely alone * Don't accept drinks from other people. * Keep your drink with you at all times

1) Roofies (Flunitrazepam): Rohypnol 2) GHB (gamma hydroxybutyric acid)GHB 3) Ketamine (ketamine hydrochloride) EFFECTS: can't remember what happened drowsiness difficult talking lost sense of time and identity pass out

You are never to blame, even if: * You knew your attacker * You were drinking or using drugs * You originally said “yes” and then said “no” * You choose not to report it * You froze and did not know what to say or you could not say “no” or were unable to fight back

1) Stay calm – try and think clearly 2) Passive resistance – try to discourage attacker to see you as a friend 3) Active resistance – fight, bite, kick Fight back odds of being raped cut in ½ Odds of being injured increase 10% 4) Never get in a car 5) SURIVIVE