DOMESTIC VIOLENCE From a Cop and a Docs perspective

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Domestic Violence is: The use of physical force by one adult member of the house hold against another adult member. Domestic Violence is: The use of physical force by one adult member of the house hold against another adult member.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE The first thing you should know is: Domestic Violence is a Crime. The first thing you should know is: Domestic Violence is a Crime.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Statistical Facts

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 1500 women are killed by their partners annually.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 30% to 50% of all women murdered are killed by their partners.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Up to 6 million women are believed to be beaten in their homes annually.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 90% of battered women never report their abuse.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE According to AMA, Domestic Violence kills as many women every five years as was killed in the Vietnam War.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Battering contributes to 25%-50% of all suicide attempts by women.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 4 million women are beaten severely enough that they require police or physician attention.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 1 out of every three women seen in ER are victims of Domestic Violence per the AMA.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE The CDC states that ER visits for battering victims is more than for muggings, rapes and traffic accidents combined.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 95% of victims are female.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Weapons are used 30% of the time.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 50% of all homeless women and children are fleeing Domestic Violence.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE In spite of hotlines, shelters and public awareness the number of assaults has remained the same over the past decade.

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Why and how does this happen?

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE The Victim

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Learned helplessness is the most commonly shared trait.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Usually associated with poor self image and low self esteem.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE In the 1800s, spousal abuse became such a problem that some progressive laws were passed to help protect abused women.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE The classic being the rule of thumb.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE In 1824 a Mississippi court held that a husband could use corporal punishment against his wife without prosecution.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE In 1874 the North Carolina Supreme court stated, If no permanent injury has been inflicted nor dangerous violence shown by the husband, it is better to shut out the public gaze and leave the parties to forgive and forget. In 1874 the North Carolina Supreme court stated, If no permanent injury has been inflicted nor dangerous violence shown by the husband, it is better to shut out the public gaze and leave the parties to forgive and forget.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE In 1895 several states enacted the Married Womens Property Act. This allowed women to own their own property and assault was grounds for divorce.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Steps to Destruction

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE There are two types of onset 1. Immediate - 15% 2. Slowly progressive - 85% There are two types of onset 1. Immediate - 15% 2. Slowly progressive - 85%

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 2. Slowly progressive

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE The verbal and physical reign of terror usually starts within the first two to four years of marriage. For those spouses that have endured both, verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse. The verbal and physical reign of terror usually starts within the first two to four years of marriage. For those spouses that have endured both, verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Isolation is the main ingredient.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Your mother hates me!

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Your father does not want you to have your freedom.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Your brothers and sisters are jealous.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE You cant control your spending.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE The batterer takes control of her paycheck, her bank account and credit cards.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Some batterers go through the trash to find and check store receipts to check on spending.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE He becomes so socially obnoxious that all other couples refuse to associate with them.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Your fat, dumb and unexciting.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE If youd only do things right in the first place, I wouldnt have to hit you so much!

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE And most of all, ITS ALL YOUR FAULT! And most of all, ITS ALL YOUR FAULT!

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE The Batterer

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE The essence of Domestic Violence for the male is power and control over his mate.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Comes from all levels of the socio- economic ladder.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Abusive men universally minimize the abuse and blame the woman.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Has trouble admitting his own shortcomings.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Some batterers are successful, handsome, well liked and charming in public.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE They hold traditional male superiority stereotypical sex roles.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE If she just wouldnt screw up, I wouldnt have to hit her so much.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE The kid Factor Older children in the family soon learn they can control mom by playing dad. They also learn that if mom leaves, theyre next.

In some cases, older children may try to intervene with the expected results of hospitalization of the child. This is usually rare because child abuse is reportable.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Cycle of Violence 1. Tension Phase 2. Acute battering phase 3. Loving / contrition phase

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Tension Phase She tries to please every whim, by walking on egg shells. She tries to anticipate every need. She tries to control his environment to keep him on an even keel.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Acute Battering Phase He becomes violent with the slightest provocation. Hes extremely irrational. Any unanticipated event sets him off.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Loving / Contrition Phase Im sorry, I didnt hurt you that bad, did I? Ill never do it again sweetie, please give me another chance. What can I do to make it up to you.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Loving / Contrition Phase Often, women will intentionally precipitate the battering phase prior to holidays and birthdays so those events go well.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Why cant she leave?

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Fact: Most women leave 6-7 times before they are able to break their ties to the abuser. Fact: Most women leave 6-7 times before they are able to break their ties to the abuser. Fact : The most common time for murder of the spousal victim is during and right after she leaves. Fact : The most common time for murder of the spousal victim is during and right after she leaves.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 2. Fear that he will kill the kids 3. No money 4. No family support 1. Fear!