2 Transitions and Problems in Family Life Ann Landers (a well known observer of the US scene once) said marriages….1 in 20 are wonderful5 in 20 are good.10 in 20 are tolerablethe remaining 4 are “pure HELLLL!!!!”Families can be a source of joy but some of the reality falls far short of the idea.
3 Causes of Divorce Individualism on the rise People spend less time with their familyThey are more into themselves and concerned more about personal happiness than being with their familyRomantic life often subsidesRelationships mostly fall apart because their sexual passion fadesMany divorce, looking for new passions or soul mates
4 Divorce in America 9 out of 10 people get married More than 4 in 10 marriages end in divorce6 out of 10 of these divorces are made by African AmericansThat is twice as high as CanadaFour times as much as Japan10 times as much as Italy* America is known to have the highest divorce rate
5 More Causes of Divorce Women are less dependent on men Marriage used to be for economic bond that provided support for their partnerNow women have increased their labor forceSo now it is easier for women to support themselvesMany of today’s marriages are stressfulSince both partners are working, it leaves less time for family lifeChildren get less attentionMany couples divorce in their early years
6 Even more Reasons ! Divorce is socially acceptable - In past decades marriage was upheld by cultural, and religious values.Divorce no longer carries the powerful stigma it did a century agoFamily, and friends are now less likely to discourage couples in conflict form divorcingLegally a divorce is easier to get.In the past divorcing couples were required to show that one or two were both guilty to adultery or physical abuse.Today all states allow divorce if they think marriage is a failureNow people think it should be harder to get a divorce
7 Who Divorces???Because mothers usually secure custody of children than fathers typically earn more income, the well being of children often depends on the fathers payment of child support.Also many children tend to blame themselves for their parents divorce/breakup.Divorce usually changes the course of the child's entire lives, causing emotional and behavioral problems and raise the risk of dropping out of school and getting into trouble either the lawAt great risk of divorce are young spouses typically who agree to marry with little money who have yet to mature emotionally.The chance of divorce also increase if an unexpected pregnancy comes along after marriage.Peoples whose parents divorced have a higher divorce rate themselves.Children who see parent go through divorce are more likely to consider divorce than those who have not experience this.Divorce is more likely to happen when both partners have successful careers because financially secure people do not feel compelled to stay in an unhappy home
8 Remarriage 4 out of 5 people who divorce remarry, most within 5 yrs. Men who derive greater benefits from wedlock are more likely than women to remarry.Remarriages often creates blended families, which is composed of children and some combination of biological parents and stepparentsMembers of blended families have to define just who is part of the children's nuclear family.Lastly blended families offer both young and old the opportunity to relax rigid family roles
9 Family VIOLENCE The ideal family is a source of pleasure and support. However the disturbing reality of many homes is family violence, that includes physical, emotional, or sexual abuse of any family member by another.
10 Violence Against Women Family brutality often is unreported to the police.32% of the women who are victims of homicides are killed by spouses or more often ex-spouses.The death toll of family violence was 1,218 as of 1999.Women were seen as property of their husbands so that no man can be charged w/raping his wife.In the past the law considered domestic violence as a private, family matter so victims had few optionsNow days shelters have been established to provide counseling and temporary housing for women and children driven form their homes by domestic violence
11 Violence against women Abusive adults misuse power and trust to damage a child's well being.Childe abusers are as likely to be women as men and they conform to no simple stereotypeMost child abusers tend to have one common trait and that is having been abused themselves as children.
12 Which Will It Be: Real Marriage or Marriage “Lite”? There was a new kind of marriage passed in 1997 called covenant marriage.Covenant marriage requires both parties to agree that before they ever seek a divorce, they will try marital counseling. They also agree that they will not divorce their partner unless the partner commits adultery, abandon the other for a year, assault partner or child, or sent to prison.Some people agree that this might bring the divorce rate down but critics say that it encourages more divorce