Lets Get Real: The Truth About Bullying By: Ashley Berry, Corinne Blackburn, and Emily Eaton

The Bully Who is the bully? The bully can be: Boy or girl Large or small Popular or unpopular Attractive or unattractive

The three kinds of bullying 1.Verbal bullying- This is the most often reported kind of bullying. It includes name-calling, taunting, cruel criticism, and racist slurs. This bullying can take place in person, over the phone, or even . This kind of bullying is the easiest to get away with.

2. Physical bullying- This kind of bullying includes slapping, hitting, choking, poking, kicking, pinching, biting, scratching, and spitting. It also includes destroying personal belongings.

3. Relational bullying- This kind of bullying includes ignoring, isolating, excluding, or shunning.

The Bullied The warning signs of a kid that is being bullied are: Stealing money from home Has torn or missing clothing Plays alone or prefers to hang around adults Takes an unusual route to school

Why Kids Dont Tell They are ashamed of being bullied They dont think anyone can or will help They have learned that ratting on a peer is not cool They are afraid of retaliation

The Bystander The bystander is the one to see the person get bullied, but usually does nothing about it. The bystander is afraid that if he/she tells they will become a new target to get bullied.

What Do I Do If I See Someone Being Bullied? Just remember CARES! Creative Problem Solving- Come up with helpful ways to deal with bullying Adult Help- This is not tattling when it keeps others safe Relate and Join- Join with and support the victims Empathy- Try to understand the feelings of the victim Stand Up and Speak Out- Say, Bullying is not allowed.

What Can I Do If Im Being Bullied? Just Think HA,HA,SO! HelpHelp- When someone bullies you, you can ask other students, teachers, parents, or siblings to help you Assert YourselfAssert Yourself- When someone picks on you, you can say Please stop that. I dont like it. HumorHumor- You can try to find a funny way to deal with the bully AvoidAvoid- stay away from kids who are mean Self talkSelf talk- When someone is mean to you, say to yourself Im okay, this is that kids problem, and being mean isnt right. Own ItOwn It- Deflect a put down by owning it. For example, if someone says Thats an ugly dress, you can say I dont like it either, but my mom made me wear it.

What To Do If Youre Being Bullied Remember to use HA,HA,SO. This includes: Helping, asserting yourself, using humor, avoiding mean kids, self- talk, and owning it. Also remember that it is your right not to be bullied. Ask adults and friends for help.

Why Bullying Matters What Happens To The Bully Bullies are at risk for problems, too. Bullying is violence, and it often leads to more violent behavior as the bully grows up. Some teen bullies end up being rejected by their peers and lose friendships as they grow older. Bullies may also fail in school and not have the career or relationship success that other people enjoy.

Why Bullying Matters What Happens to the Bullied One of the most painful aspects of bullying is its relentlessness. The seemingly never-ending nature of bullying can put a person in a state of constant fear, and kids who are bullied may find their schoolwork and health suffering. Studies show that people who are abused by their peers are at risk for mental health problems such as depression or anxiety. They may also think about suicide more.

Myths Vs Facts Myth:Name-calling and teasing are just normal parts of growing up. Fact: This behavior is not normal and needs to be stopped. Myth:Boys are usually the bullies. Fact:Girls are becoming more physically aggressive and the relational bullying they do can be extremely damaging. Myth:If we ignore minor incidents theyll go away Fact:No. This behavior will continue unless we confront it for what it is.

Poems Bullies are very mean, Theyre tall or small and sometimes lean, All I know is what they do, Is bully, bully kids like you. I watched a fight this afternoon, But I had to go away too soon, When I left the bully yelled, Give me the money by the morning bell!