Death & Dying Funeral & Follow-up

Elizabeth Kubler Ross Published 1969 Swiss-born psychiatrist July 8, 1926 – August 24, 2004

Living With An Empty Chair, Roberta Temes, Second Edition, 1980

Three particular types of behavior exhibited by those suffering from grief and loss: Numbness (mechanical functioning and social insulation) Disorganization (intensely painful feelings of loss) Reorganization (re-entry into a more 'normal' social life.)

Hospital Danville, Va.

Margie

How Do You Die?

The Seven Words from the Cross

“Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” Luke 23.34

Who do you need to forgive? “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” Luke Who do you need to forgive?

II. “Verily I say unto thee, Today shalt thou be with me in paradise” Luke 23.43

Who needs a word about their salvation?

III. “Woman, behold thy son. Behold thy mother.” John

Who needs provision when you leave?

IV. “My God, My God, Why hast Thou forsaken me?” Matthew 27.46

Because Jesus suffered this separation, you never need to fear!

V. “I thirst” John 19.28

When physical needs come take the help offered.

VI. “It is finished” John 19.30

Finishing fulfills God’s plan for your life on earth.

VII. “Father, into thy hands I commend my spirit” Luke 23.46

You enter the hands of a heavenly Parent who cared for you so much He gave all He could give.

“I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in Me, though he may die, he shall live. And whoever lives and believes in Me shall never die.” John 11:25-26

When Death Happens

Meetings With Family As soon as possible after death notification To make funeral service arrangements At first viewing of the body At home for meal At visitation-viewing Immediately before service After service Follow up

When Death Happens When Notified – 1 st Visit Get with family as soon as possible Get with family as soon as possible Pray with them Pray with them Stay 30 minutes Stay 30 minutes Offer to make calls from the house to family members, close friends, etc. Offer to make calls from the house to family members, close friends, etc. Leave your card – number in plain sight Leave your card – number in plain sight Which funeral home Which funeral home Which cemetery Which cemetery Contact Church members Contact Church members Contact Church funeral teams Contact Church funeral teams Ask them to call with time the funeral home will come to make arrangements Ask them to call with time the funeral home will come to make arrangements

When Death Happens Arrangements Meeting Let them make choices Time – Type - Location Special Scripture Special Songs – Make sure of the song. – Who will play-sing? – Who will contact? – Remind of time of songs Other Speakers – What will each do? – Who will contact? Other Special Rites – When will they take place – Who will be in charge Other Elements To Include – Eulogy – Family statement – Family members speak

When Death Happens Meetings With Family As soon as possible after death notification To make funeral service arrangements At first viewing of the body At home for meal At visitation-viewing Immediately before service After service Follow Ups On anniversary of Death 1 Month - Call 3 Months - Card 6 Months - Call 1 st Year – Visit 2 nd Year - Visit

When Death Happens Follow Up On anniversary of Day of Death 1 Month – Call or Visit 3 Months - Card 6 Months - Call 1 st Year – Visit 2 nd Year - Visit