Any forced sexual contact by one person with another person. This includes touching on top of and underneath clothing, includes forcing the victim to touch the offender sexually, includes touching sexual body parts with objects. What is sexual violence?

Continium of Sexual Violence Obscene phone calls Window peeping Flashing Sexual Harassment Fondling Date Rape Stranger Rape Multiple Assailants Relative Assault (Incest)

“She asked for it.” “It can’t happen to me.” Sex offenders are motivated by sexual desire. Sex offenders are retarded. Sex offenders are a certain race. Women frequently “cry rape”. Myths of Sexual Assault

Hold offenders accountable for the crime Recognize the victim’s vulnerability Demonstrate empathy toward victims Realize that rape is not sexy Prevention will only come w/ social change

Consent means both persons agree to sexual activity without the influence of drugs or alcohol, without manipulation, promises, lies or blackmail, without physical force, threats, or the use of weapons or restraints. Force robs another of their free will and their right to refuse. Consent vs. force

70% are power rapists - little bodily injury, pre-planned, repetitive, offender known to victim 25% are anger rapists - great physical trauma, impulsive, episodic 5% are sadistic rapists - kidnapping, murder, torture, mutilation, calculated Patterns of Rape

Three Phases of the Rape Experience 1. threat of attack 2. victimization 3. aftermath

 Failure to get a clear consent  Failure to stop when victim says no  Using drugs or alcohol  Victim is under 16 years  Victim is under 18 years and offender is over 24 years of age  Usually during social occasions How date rape occurs

Work in 5-20 minutes Offender can remain anonymous Render victims helpless Cheap Cannot be tasted in beverage Eliminate memory of victim Hard to detect in later blood tests (morning after pill is high dose of estrogen) Date Rape Drugs

Most rapes are not reported by victims :  Lack of understanding of what rape is  Fear of not being believed  Fear of being blamed  Fear of getting into trouble  Fear of parent’s reaction  Fear of offender  Fear of getting a bad reputation

Shock Disbelief Embarrassment Shame Guilt Depression Powerlessness Disorientation Retriggering Denial Fear Anxiety Anger Reactions to Sexual Assault

* Power * Punishment * Control * Sadistic * “Make up” sex * Forced unacceptable acts * Multiple partners * Videotapes sold on internet Marital Rape

 Practice good communication skills  Trust your feelings  Go out in groups  Stay together  Stay sober  Be careful with beverages  Always let someone know where you will be Reduce your risk

 Get to a safe place.  Call a friend or relative who can help.  Call 911 or a crisis hot line.  Get medical help.  Do not shower.  Save the clothing you were wearing.  Get support, such as counseling.  And always remember… rape is never your fault! What to do when Sexual Assault Occurs

Helping a survivor Tend to her Needs  No More Violence  Listen  Believe Her  Help Her Regain Control  Realize Limitations

Where to get Help UNF Women’s Center – Local hotline – promotetruth.org RAINN.org MAVAW.org VAWnet.org

S safety & security V ventilate & validate P prepare & predict Crisis counseling