Building Your Future Caitlin Anderson, PhD, CPCC, ACC Finding Your Center Coaching & Consulting Albuquerque, New Mexico

2 Does this sound familiar? Diagnosed 5 years ago Diagnosed one week before starting college

3 Does this sound familiar? Diagnosed one week before starting college Diagnosed 5 years ago

4 Diagnosed one week before starting college Diagnosed 5 years ago Does this sound familiar?

5 Building Your Future What is the first thing that comes to your mind? And then?.....

6 Building Your Future Does this sound familiar?

7 Building Your Future Does this sound familiar?

8 Building Your Future Does this sound familiar?

9 Building Your Future Does this sound familiar?

10 Building Your Future Does this sound familiar?

11 Building Your Future Starts NOW! Finding Your Center Wheel of Life PAUSE System Tips & Resources Call to Action BUILDING YOUR FUTURE Co-Active Coaching: New Skills for Coaching People Toward Success in Work and Life, Whitworth, et al (2007), p Dave Engstrom, PhD, ABPP.

12 Finding Your Center Who are you? Today? Who will you be? What keeps you centered and grounded?

13 Finding Your Center MS diagnosis knocks you off center… – there are many paths back to center

14 Finding Your Center “When One Door Closes Another Door Opens Wide” By Carrie Newcomer BMI, Bug Music Publishing. “When one door closes… another door opens wide”

15 Health Family & Friends Fun & RecreationSignificant Others/ Romance Money Physical Environment Career Personal Growth Wheel of Life How Bumpy is the Ride Called “Your Life”? Rate your level of satisfaction on each wedge of the wheel, 1 to 10 (with 10 being the most satisfied) These 8 sections in the Wheel of Life represent balance Co-Active Coaching: New Skills for Coaching People Toward Success in Work and Life, Whitworth, et al (2007), p. 194.

16 Health Family & Friends Fun & RecreationSignificant Others/ Romance Money Physical Environment Career Personal Growth Balancing Your Wheel of Life Where on the wheel do you want to be? What would that look like?

17 Health Family & Friends Fun & RecreationSignificant Others/ Romance Money Physical Environment Career Personal Growth Balancing Your Wheel of Life Where on the wheel do you want to be? What would that look like? What do you want the ride to look like in 5 years?

18 Health Family & Friends Fun & RecreationSignificant Others/ Romance Money Physical Environment Career Personal Growth Balancing Your Wheel of Life Where on the wheel do you want to be? What would that look like? What do you want the ride to look like in 5 years? 10 years?

Rate yourself on Health on diagnosis date Rate yourself today Look at the next number up – what would that be like? What’s one thing you can do this week to move toward that number? Commit to doing it! 19 Health

20 Health Call to Action Create a Health Care Organization chart with YOU as CEO Keep a small notepad with you to track symptoms Use a calendar to track doctors appointments and medication schedule Write down questions as you think of them between doctors appointments Stay active – consult with your doctor to find an activity that works for you

21 Career “What are my leading gifts and abilities? … In those simple personal gifts, the seeds of vocation are often found.” Rate yourself today What would a 10 look like? Can you imagine a dream job? What’s one small step you can take this month to move toward that number? Commit to doing it ! The Active Life: Wisdom for Work, Creativity, and Caring, Parker Palmer (1990), p.68.

22 Career Call to Action Set up informational interviews Visit a career center Build a support network at work Consider adjustments Create a Dream Job

23 Friends and Family Family of Origin and Family of Choice Rate yourself on diagnosis date Rate yourself today Look at next number up – what would that be like? Think of your Family Tree as a metaphor. What kind of tree is it?

24 Friend and Family Call to Action Create circles of sharing Draw your family tree Think of 3 creative ways to build and maintain connections Reflect on your family of choice Consider photos as structures to symbolize your family of choice

25 Health Family & Friends Fun & RecreationSignificant Others/ Romance Money Physical Environment Career Personal Growth Your Wheel of Life Which wedge of the Wheel calls out to you? What would a 10 look like? What’s the easiest to tackle? The hardest? Which wedge scares you the most?

26 P.A.U.S.E. System Plan your strategy Account for changes Understand barriers Slow your pace Exercise your options Dave Engstrom, PhD, ABPP.

27 P.A.U.S.E. System: Career Wedge P: interview people, visit career center A: accountability, write down your strategy, journal, notice and celebrate successes U: fear, time, energy, resistance, messages from others S: relaxation, mindfulness, breathing exercises E: set and implement goals

28 Building Your Future Starts NOW! Goal area: __________________ Starting on _____(date)________ At _____(time)_____ I will __________________ Barriers I predict: _______________ How I’ll cope with them: _________ How I’ll track my progress and whom I’ll tell: ____________

29 Building Your Future Starts NOW! Most importantly: I’ll celebrate my success by:

30 Building Your Future Starts NOW! Build your future now! Declare your intention!

31 Helpful Resources The National Multiple Sclerosis Society – National Web site [ – Chapter for in person events and self-help groups MS LifeLines Web site [ Real Talk. Real Answers. Web site [ Explore the Web for chat rooms/blogs And even, the library and books!

32 Find Your Center and Live It!

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