Confronting Self Sabotage Presented by Alan H. Culpeper, CPPO, VCO

Newton’s Law For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Elements of the Game A Limited Time to Play A Small Challenge A Score

Going Beyond Procurement Self Sabotaging Assessment

Assessment Results 0 questions, you are free from self sabotage. 2 questions, you are moderately self sabotaging. 4 questions, you are in the middle just like all the other psychological surveys you’re ever taken. 6 questions, you are strongly self sabotaging. 8 questions or more, you are likely consumed by self sabotage whether you know it or not!

Redesigning Your Playbook VIRGINIA TECH O X O O O OOOO O O O X X X X X X X X X X

Redesigning Your Playbook 1.Rewriting the Formula for Success 2.Raise your Deserve Level 3.The Fear of Potential Success 4.Never waving the White Flag of Surrender 5.Understanding those little voices inside your head 6.Resisting the idea of Throwing in the Towel

Formula For Success Hard Work + Success = Goals/Happy Goals/Happy + Success =Work Hard

Raise Your Deserve Level Nothing will beat an attempt, but a try

New Game Rule Giving Yourself “Permission”

The Fear of Success As Purchasing Agents we must take full responsibility for our actions, and never try to shift the blame. Our job is not to assign blame, but to make the best of every circumstance and to meet every new challenge to our objective.

New Game Rule It’s O.K. to get Angry.

Waving the White Flag of Surrender Believing in yourself is an endless destination Believing you have failed is the end of the journey

Why People Give Up Difficulty Responsibility Overwhelming Feeling Time Opt-Out

Ask Ask and Then Ask Again Have a positive expectation Keep asking Make your request clear and specific What do you want? To whom do you feel you can’t say “No” to without being reprimanded? To whom can you say “No” and still get away with it? Our Inability to AskThe Amount of Guilt to Say “No”

New Rules to the Game Ask for what you want & You can say “No”

Little Voice Inside Your Head Without that little voice in your head, you wouldn’t be able to read this.

The Power of the Unconscious Mind

Preventing Negative Thoughts Interrupt the thought and say “STOP” Use only Positive Statements Believe in what you are saying Feel good about yourself Be Specific

Throwing in the Towel “Age wrinkles the body. Quitting wrinkles the soul” Douglas MacArthur

New Designed Plays 1.New Formula for Success 2.Raising your Deserve Level 3.Reaching your full Potential Success 4.Never waving the White Flag of Surrender 5.Understanding those little voices inside your head 6.Resisting the idea of Throwing in the Towel

New Rules to the Game Give Yourself Permission Angry is o.k. Always Ask You can say “No”

Never Give Up!

10 Simple Rules to Prevent Self-Sabotage 10.If at first you don’t succeed, remove allevidence you ever tried. 9.If a first you do succeed, try not tolook too startled. 8.You have to be 100% behind someone before you can stab them in the back.

10 Simple Rules to Prevent Self-Sabotage 7.Don’t play cat-and-mouse games if you have any reason to suspect that you might be the mouse. 6.If you can’t do things correctly, at least be consistent. 5.Never underestimate the power of very stupid people in large groups.

10 Simple Rules to Prevent Self-Sabotage 4.It’s only when you run out of options that the solution becomes clear. 3.Pride, commitment, and teamwork are words used to get you to work for free. 2.Never be too good at the tough jobs; you’ll only be given more of them.

The #1 Rule to Prevent Self-Sabotage 1.Don’t make yourself irreplaceable; If they can’t replace you, they won’t promote you.

Confronting Self Sabotage Presented by Alan H. Culpeper, CPPO, VCO