AP Love “I can’t really describe her.” -Manti Te’o

Do opposites attract? Generally, no The two exceptions: 1.Extrovert-introvert 2.Immune systems -The T-shirt tests (Thornhill) Women were asked to smell t-shirts previously worn by men, and state which shirts they were most attracted to. The findings showed: A.Women most attracted to those shirts worn by men with slightly different immune systems; B.Women most attracted to symmetrical men; and C.Supported the existence of pheromones (chemicals that indicate sexual receptivity) in humans

Physical Attractiveness Numerous studies demonstrate that people are attracted to those who remind them of their opposite-sex parents In addition, a recent study (Perrett, University of St. Andrew’s) suggests that you are most attracted to people who look like ….

You!

Falling in love When a person falls in love, the brain raises the production level of three neurotransmitters 1.dopamine: feeling of bliss 2.Norepinephrine (aka adrenaline): racing heart & excitement Together the first two produce: -elation - craving -intense energy - loss of appetite -sleeplessness - loss of focus

3. Oxytocin (aka the “cuddle chemical”): hormone found in mammals. Also acts as a neurotransmitter In the brain. -Secreted during sexual activity and during the birth process. -Associated with sexual arousal, bonding, maternal behavior, increased trust, decreased fear. -MDMA (aka Ecstasy) appears to increase oxytocin levels in the individual.

Falling in love Falling in love also causes a drop in serotonin, and suppresses neural circuits responsible for assessing people critically Result: obsession The process of falling in love is known as passionate love( aka limerence ) (Hatfield, Rutgers University)

Can it last? Almost certainly not Studies indicate that the chemicals responsible for the feeling of passionate love can only last a maximum of 2-3 years. Problem: A large number of people marry during the passionate love period Then they realize that their partner has flaws

Then what? Whether your passionate love can transition into companionate love (aka true love) appears to depend on: 1.Idealization of partner. The ability to put a positive spin on your partner’s behavior (Berscheid, University of Minnesota) 2.Length of Courtship. The longer the courtship, the longer the relationship will last (Huston, University of Texas, Austin)

K-I-S-S-I-N-G Kissing as part of romance is believed to be older than recorded history. One theory states that kissing started as a way for mothers to pass on nourishment to their infant children. Women use kissing as a method to measure partner’s health (Hughes, Harrison, Gallup, 2007) Kissing also appears to activate neurons that promote empathy and reduce inhibitions (Ramachandran)