Love And Family -101-

Family Facts Society / media influence some families more than they like to admit If marriage is not nurtured it will fail like any other relationship Most people don’t know what love is

I. Love

Love regulates every relationship  Mt.22:37-40  Ro.13:8-10 Church Work Family Government Play Love

Four overlapping love words 1. Desire – our ‘erotic’: desire for a thing  Pr.7:18...  Pr.4:6, feel passionately about, have a longing for, feel fervently about  Affection both pure and impure, divine and human – BDB. Est.2:17 The king loved Esther more than all the other women, and she obtained grace and favor...

Four overlapping love words 1. Desire – ‘erotic’: desire for a thing 2. Natural affection – love of kindred, esp. parents for children, v. versa  Ro.1:31; 2 Tim.3:3  Mother bear unloving, NKJV heartless, ESV inhuman, NRSV

Four overlapping love words 1. Desire – ‘erotic’: desire for a thing 2. Natural affection – love of kindred, esp. parents for children, v. versa 3. Friendship – tender affection  Lk.14:12... but 1 Co.16:22 Marriage built only on affection? What happens when affection leaves?

Four overlapping love words 1. Desire – ‘erotic’: desire for a thing 2. Natural affection – love of kindred, esp. parents for children, v. versa 3. Friendship – tender affection 4. Choice, will – not impulse of feelings  Mt.5:44, based on feelings?  Love is goodness in action – Ro.5:8

I. Love II. Relationships

1. Husband → Wife  Ep.5:25, the supreme test  Ep.5:28-29, the self test (Mt.7:12) 1. Pleasant, Col.3:19  Not bitter, harsh, severe, irritated  Ep.4:31, no resentment, spite  Gn.16

1. Husband → Wife  Ep.5:25, the supreme test  Ep.5:28-29, the self test (Mt.7:12) 1. Pleasant, Col.3:19 2. Provide, 1 Tim.5:8  Care for someone

1. Husband → Wife  Ep.5:25, the supreme test  Ep.5:28-29, the self test (Mt.7:12) 1. Pleasant, Col.3:19 2. Provide, 1 Tim.5:8 3. Prize, 1 Pt.3:7  Understanding, honor, attention  1 Pt.3:8, court ▪ eous Court, lit. ‘befitting a royal court’

1. Husband → Wife 2. Wife → Husband  Tit.2:4, her love  1 Tim.2:15, her longing  2 Tim.3:6, her liability  Respect, Ep.5:33  Romance, 1 Co.7:1-5  Restraint, Tit.2:5 Submit: to subject, subordinate, obey. Pr.19:13; 21:9; 27:15

1. Husband → Wife 2. Wife → Husband 3. Parents ↔ Children  Tit.2:4, loving one’s children  Why necessary?  Drained of all energy  Disturbed (sick? …shots? …school?)  Distracted by other things

1. Husband → Wife 2. Wife → Husband 3. Parents ↔ Children  Tit.2:4, loving one’s children  What included (parents and children)?  Esteem for parental authority, Pr.1:8; Ep.6:1-3 [Lk.23:21-23]  Exercise of discipline, Pr.13:24; Ep.6:4; Hb.12:5  Emphasis on soul, Ep.6:4

1. Husband → Wife 2. Wife → Husband 3. Parents ↔ Children  Tit.2:4, loving one’s children  Emphasis on soul (Ep.6:4) requires...  Respect rights of others, 2 Sm.14  Righteous companion, Gn.24  Remember God, Ec.12:1  Mt.6:33  Ep.5:16  Hb.10:25