What is a Habit?  Habits are patterns of behaviour composed of 3 overlapping components: -Knowledge -Desire -Skill Knowledge DesireSkills

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers Habit 1: Be Proactive Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind Habit 3: Put Important things First Habit 4: Think Win-Win Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to Be Understood Habit 6: Synergize Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

The 7 Habits of Highly Defective Teenagers Habit 1: React Habit 2: Begin with no End in Mind Habit 3: Put Important things Last Habit 4: Think Win-Lose Habit 5: Seek First to Talk, then Pretend to Listen Habit 6: Don’t Cooperate Habit 7: Wear yourself Out

Paradigm The way you see something, your point of view, frame of reference, or belief.

 A paradigm shift is a way of looking at something differently.  We all assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or should be. Ex: People used to think the Earth was flat. Magellan proved the Earth is round.

Two battleships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy weather for several days. I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the bridge as night fell. Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported, “light, bearing on the starboard bow.” “Is it steady or moving astern?” the captain said. Lookout replied, “Steady captain,” which meant we were on a collision course.

The captain called to the signalman, “Signal that ship: We are on a collision course, I advise you to change course 20 degrees.” Back came the reply, “It is advisable for you to change course 20 degrees.” The captain said, “I’m a captain, change course 20 degrees.” “I am a seaman second class” came the reply. “You had better change course 20 degrees.”

By that time, the captain was furious. He spat out, “I’m a battleship. Change course 20 degrees.” Back came the reply, “I’m a lighthouse.” We changed course.

a) Focus on the positive b) Act, don’t React c) Think before you speak d) You can’t control others, you can only control yourself e) Push the pause button f) Focus on solutions and options, not problems and barriers

 “It’s not my fault”  “If only”  “It wasn’t me”  Note: Proactive people take responsibilities for their successes and failures.

Reactive choices vs Proactive choices a) Tell someone off. Forgive the person. b) Spread rumors about Ignore and give the a person. person a 2 nd chance. c) Start a fight. Calmly share how you feel.

 Control your own destiny or someone else will.

 Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least. ex: Exams, family crisis are more important or urgent than peer pressure, shopping, texting.

 Have an everyone can win attitude.

 Communication solves problems.  Listen to people sincerely.  Before you can walk in another’s shoes, you must first walk in your own.

Listening styles Poor Positive a) Pretend listening Listen with your eyes and heart b) Self-centered listening Stand in the other (judging, advising) person’s shoes

a) Open-mindedness. b) Teamwork. c) New ways to do things. d) Work together to achieve more. e) Celebrate differences. (A fruit salad is delicious precisely because each fruit maintains its own flavour).

 Continuous self-renewal and self-improvement in: a) your heart b) your body c) your brain d) your soul