Those working with young people of all ages (0-18 years)

To explore basic issues around Bullying, to think about it in our local context and consider methods for dealing with it.

Clarified what is meant by bullying

Knowledge of how to look for some of the signs of bullying

Clarified what is meant by bullying Knowledge of how to look for some of the signs of bullying Considered the experiences of this in our local context

Clarified what is meant by bullying Knowledge of how to look for some of the signs of bullying Considered the experiences of this in our local context Created a unified approach for dealing with bullying in our corps/church, in line with The Salvation Army’s Safeguarding procedures

We are committed to providing a caring, friendly and safe environment for all of our children and leaders so they can develop in a relaxed and secure atmosphere. Bullying of any kind (including cyberbullying) is unacceptable in our corps fellowship. If bullying does occur, all children and leaders should be able to tell about it and know that incidents will be dealt with promptly and effectively. This means that anyone who knows that bullying is happening is expected to tell a children’s worker.

THE SALVATION ARMY’S POLICY STATEMENT:

Bullying is the use of aggression with the intention of hurting another person. Children can bully each other, be bullied by adults and can sometimes bully adults. Any form of bullying results in pain and distress to the victim. THE SALVATION ARMY’S POLICY STATEMENT:

HOW MANY FORMS OF BULLYING CAN YOU THINK OF?

Emotional Physical Sexual Racial Homophobic Verbal Unofficial activities

Bullying hurts

Young person being bullied needs protection

Bullying hurts Young person being bullied needs protection Young person bullying needs help

Bullying hurts Young person being bullied needs protection Young person bullying needs help Safe space can be created

Bullying hurts Young person being bullied needs protection Young person bullying needs help Safe space can be created It helps to create a culture of peer accountability

Bullying hurts Young person being bullied needs protection Young person bullying needs help Safe space can be created It helps to create a culture of peer accountability Only in a safe place can young people develop and express themselves fully and confidently

o Be frightened of walking to and from school. o Change their usual route. o Not want you to go on the school bus. o Beg you to drive them to school. o Be unwilling to go to school (or be 'school phobic'). o Feel ill in the mornings. o Begin truanting. o Begin doing poorly in their school work. o Come home regularly with clothes or books destroyed. o Come home starving (bully taking dinner money). o Become withdrawn, start stammering, lack confidence. o Become distressed and anxious, stop eating. o Attempt or threaten suicide. o Cry themselves to sleep, have nightmares. o Have their possessions go missing. o Ask for money or start stealing (to pay the bully). o Continually 'lose' their pocket money. o Refuse to talk about what's wrong. o Have unexplained bruises, cuts, scratches. o Begin to bully other young people, siblings. o Become aggressive and unreasonable. o Give improbable excuses for any of the above. KIDSCAPE:

o Be frightened of walking to and from school. o Change their usual route. o Not want you to go on the school bus. o Beg you to drive them to school. o Be unwilling to go to school (or be 'school phobic'). o Feel ill in the mornings. o Begin truanting. o Begin doing poorly in their school work. o Come home regularly with clothes or books destroyed. o Come home starving (bully taking dinner money). o Become withdrawn, start stammering, lack confidence. o Become distressed and anxious, stop eating. o Attempt or threaten suicide. o Cry themselves to sleep, have nightmares. o Have their possessions go missing. o Ask for money or start stealing (to pay the bully). o Continually 'lose' their pocket money. o Refuse to talk about what's wrong. o Have unexplained bruises, cuts, scratches. o Begin to bully other young people, siblings. o Become aggressive and unreasonable. o Give improbable excuses for any of the above. KIDSCAPE: OTHERS THAT MAY BE MORE SPECIFIC TO OUR WORK: o Young person may not want to sit in the same place as they always have at Club/Sunday school o Young person may always want to sit out of a certain activity (i.e. sports or craft – perhaps because they have been teased or bullied about it!) o Young person may not want to come into the programme and cling on to parent(s)

Some ways that you can prevent bullying:

Writing a set of group rules

Some ways that you can prevent bullying: Writing a set of group rules Reinforcing the rules

Some ways that you can prevent bullying: Writing a set of group rules Behaviour contracts Reinforcing the rules

Some ways that you can prevent bullying: Writing a set of group rules Behaviour contracts Sessions/discussions about bullying Reinforcing the rules

Some ways that you can prevent bullying: Writing a set of group rules Behaviour contracts Sessions/discussions about bullying Reinforcing the rules All workers to be aware of ‘Hot Spots’

Some ways that you can prevent bullying: It is important that young people are included as much as possible in bullying prevention Writing a set of group rules Behaviour contracts Sessions/discussions about bullying Reinforcing the rules All workers to be aware of ‘Hot Spots’

Some ways that you can prevent bullying: It is important that young people are included as much as possible in bullying prevention Writing a set of group rules Behaviour contracts Sessions/discussions about bullying Reinforcing the rules All workers to be aware of ‘Hot Spots’ Are there any things here that you are already doing or could develop in your ministry and programmes?

Read through the Procedures and Outcomes:

Who would be the actual people/leaders involved in this?

Read through the Procedures and Outcomes: Who would be the actual people/leaders involved in this? Are there any changes that you think need to be made for your setting?

Read through the Procedures and Outcomes: Who would be the actual people/leaders involved in this? Are there any changes that you think need to be made for your setting? Are there any additional potential issues/concerns/ things to be aware of ?

Spend a couple of moments thinking back over the session…

You may find it helpful to fill in the reflection sheet – this isn’t to feedback on the session, it’s for you to think about how your personal and team ministry and practise can be better after this session

We’d love your feedback! Please fill in the form and let us know what you found helpful and what you didn’t find helpful. Your facilitator can give you an electronic version that you can back to us if you prefer.

Think of different types of bullying and write them on separate small sheets of paper

Swap yours with another group and put them in order of ‘coolest’ (least harmful) to ‘hottest’ (most harmful)

Pick one of the why we bully cards

Your group has 2 mins to come up with a short sketch to demonstrate a bully in those circumstances

Pick one of the why we bully cards Your group has 2 mins to come up with a short sketch to demonstrate a bully in those circumstances The other groups have to try to guess the reason behind the bullying behaviour