1. Bullying Why should you care?

2. Definition A person is being bullied or victimized when he or she is exposed to negative actions on the part of one or more persons repeatedly over time.

3. Bullying Behaviors Picking on someone Teasing someone Hurting someone’s feelings on purpose Touching someone in ways that the victim does not like. Hitting or slapping someone Throwing things at someone Insulting someone

4. Factors That Contribute Early history of aggression Social and cognitive deficits Poor parental supervision Parental drug and alcohol abuse Lack of emotional attachment to caregivers Low commitment to school High levels of transience and family disruption

5. When does bullying start? Usually starts as early as preschool. Bullying seems to peak during the middle school years. Then bullying tends to decline during high school.

6. Bully Statistics www.how-to-stop-bulling.com – 1 out of 4 kids is Bullied. An American Justice Department school bullying statistics and cyber bullying statistics studies shows that this month 1 out of every 4 kids will be abused by another youth. – School bullying statistics surveys show that 77% of students are bullied mentally, verbally, & physically. Cyber bullying statistic are rapidly approaching similar numbers. – In a recent school bullying statistics study, 77% of the students said they had been bullied. And 14% of those who were bullied said they experienced severe (bad) reactions to the abuse. Many have tried to stop cyber bullying according to cyber bullying statistics.

7. – 1 out of 5 kids on a school bullying statistics and cyber bullying statistics study admit to being a bully, or doing some “Bullying.” – Each day 160,000 students miss school for fear of being bullied. – A school bullying statistics reveals that 43% fear harassment in the bathroom at school. – 100,000 students carry a gun to school. – 28% of youths who carry weapons have witnessed violence at home.

8. – A school bullying statistics and cyber bullying statistics poll of teens ages 12-17 proved that they think violence increased at their schools. – The same school bullying statistics and cyber bullying statistics poll also showed that 282,000 students are physically attacked in secondary schools each month. – More youth violence occurs on school grounds as opposed to on the way to school. – Playground school bullying statistics - Every 7 minutes a child is bullied. Adult intervention - 4%. Peer intervention - 11%. No intervention - 85%.

9. Which students are most likely to get Bullied? Didn’t fit in Physical weakness Facial appearance Clothing Physical appearance Good grades Short tempered

10. North Carolina Law Statute 115C-407.5 (2009) defines bullying or harassing behavior and requires each local school administrative unit to adopt a policy prohibiting bullying or harassing behavior. The requirements of the policy are outlined in the statute.115C-407.5 – The statute defines bullying or harassing behavior as that which may place a student in actual and reasonable fear of harm to his or her person or damage to their property, create or is certain to create a hostile environment.

11. CMS Bullying Policy http://documents.cms.k12.nc.us/dsweb/Get/D ocument-20672/JICK-R+approved+4-1- 10.pdf http://documents.cms.k12.nc.us/dsweb/Get/D ocument-20672/JICK-R+approved+4-1- 10.pdf

12. Characteristics of a Bully Excited by their bullying behavior Enjoy feelings of power and control Enjoy causing pain Are calm and show little emotion Blame the victims Are usually average students Usually have small network of friends

13. Bully Characteristics Continued Lack compassion and empathy for their victims Are successful at hiding their bullying behaviors Are excited by their victims reactions such as fighting back Think that the innocent remarks or actions of others are meant to hurt them Generally Bullies have low self-esteem

14. Victims There are two types : – Passive – Provocative

15. Passive Victims Show lot of emotion Rarely tell about being bullied May carry weapons for protection Do not encourage attack May be shy and lacking in social skills Are usually last or left out

16. Passive Victims Continued May appear to lack humor Have few or no friends Are often anxious and easily upset Are bullied repeatedly May use money or toys as bribes, for protection

17. Provocative Victims Are pesky and repeatedly irritate others Are quick tempered and prone to fight back Get others charged up May be clumsy, immature, restless Provoke bullying; they egg on people who bully Sometimes look like they are bullies, but unlike true bullies they lose in the end

18. Comparison of Boy and Girl Bullies Boys – Physical aggression, such as tripping, hitting, and kicking – Verbal aggression, such as teasing, taunting, and name calling Girls – Subtle; more difficult to spot and intervene – Emotional aggression – Social alienation – Intimidation – Rumor spreading

19. What can the parents do if they think their child is a bully or a victim?

20. Talk to your child Discuss how it feels to be bullied. If your child is a bully, make it clear that bullying is not acceptable. In both cases let him or her know that you will help solve the problem Do not recommend fighting back Practice ignoring bullies and using humor together Recommend sticking with friends or telling an adult when things seem unsafe

21. Model Non-Violent Behavior As a model for your child, use loving words, not anger to solve the problem. Remember the child watches your every move, if you bully people so will they.

22. Ask yourself, where your child has been exposed to violent behavior? Stop or monitor exposure to the violence

23. Let your child be Independent There is a thin line between not being protective enough and being over protective

24. Help your child feel successful Praise good actions Remind him or her of their strengths

25. What should teachers know or do? Model acceptable treatment of others Communicate clear expectations to your class Enforce the rules consistently Take all complaints seriously Stress the use of respect to others Always intervene and document the incidents

26. How can teachers help the parents help their children? Document all incident and keep them on file Inform the parents before the situation escalates Parents should try to get all the facts, then ask the child’s point of view Help the child see what happened from several points of view, to include: the bullies, the victims, the spectators, and then the teacher. Help the child come up with ways to resolve the situation Arrange for a checkpoint of progress Praise progress

27. Signs of Bullying Be frightened of walking to and from school Change their usual route Not want to go on the school bus Beg you drive them to school Be unwilling to go to school Feel ill in the mornings Begin doing poorly in their school work Come home regularly with clothes or books destroyed Come home starving Become withdrawn, start stammering, lack confidence

28. What should I do as the teacher when I encounter bullying?

29. What to do? Intervene immediately to stop the bullying Talk to the bully and the victim separately. If more than one student is involved in the bullying behavior, talk to each separately, in quick succession. (Expect bullies to minimize and deny their actions.)

30. Remind them about school and classroom rules, reiterate what behavior is expected, and discuss sanctions that will be imposed for future bullying behavior. Reassure the victim that everything possible will be done to prevent a recurrence.

31. Make other students aware of the consequences of the bullying behavior. Reiterate the school’s policy of zero tolerance toward bullying. Make a log of dates and times of when the incident happened and what happened and how you handled it.

32. Phone the parents of both the bully and the victim as soon as possible. If possible, involve the parents in designing a plan of action. Continue to monitor the behavior of the bully and the safety of the victim.

33. Consult administrators, teachers, and staff members to alert them to the problem and to get a better understanding of it. If the situation doesn’t change, remove the bully, not the victim, from the class