© L. M. Damgaard

 INTRODUCTION  WHAT IS SEX ADDICTION?  TYPES OF SEXUAL ADDICTION  SOUTHPARK  PORNOGRAPHY & CYBER SEX  STATISTICS  LOVE ADDICTION  EXTREME LOVE ADDICTION

 When God made Adam, he said, “Adam, I have good and bad news for you; the good news is that I gave you both a brain and a penis. The bad news is that I'm afraid I gave you only enough blood to work one at a time.

 Sexual addiction is a persistent and escalating pattern or patterns of sexual behaviors acted out despite increasingly negative consequences to self or others  It occurs when a person uses one or more sexual behaviors as a “fix” that results in negative consequences.  Compulsive Behavior 94%  Loss of Control 93%  Efforts to Stop88%  Loss of Time 94%  Preoccupation 77%  Inability to Fulfill Obligations 87%  Continuation Despite Consequences 85%  Escalation 74%  Social, Occupational, Recreational Losses 87%  Withdrawal 98%

 Sexually charged fantasies, relationships and situations. Arousal depends on sexual possibility  Obsession & Preoccupation is the way to prolong the feeling

 Seduction of partners. Arousal is based on conquest and diminishes rapidly after initial contact  Arousal heightened with risk and number of partners

 Visual arousal. The use of visual information to escape into obsessive trance.  Hide downloaded material = STASH

EXHIBITIONISTIC SEX Attracting attention to body or sexual parts of the body. Sexual arousal stems from reaction of viewer, whether shock or interest

 Purchase of sexual services. Arousal is connected to payment for sex and with time the arousal actually becomes connected to money itself.  Monetized rage: Eroticized rage + Money

 Selling or bartering sex for power. Arousal is based on gaining control of others by using sex as leverage  Mutual Sex may be unrewarding

 Boundary violation without discovery. Sexual arousal occurs by violating boundaries with no repercussions.  Frotteurism

 High-risk sex with unknown persons  No obligations  Immediate gratification  Ritualistic

 Being humiliated or hurt as part of sexual arousal; or sadistic hurting or degrading another sexually, or both.  BDSM  Autoerotic: Self- Inflicting pain

 Exploitation of the vulnerable. Arousal patterns are based on target “types” of vulnerability.  “Grooming” process: process of building trust in a potential victim

Internet Sex is the “crack-cocaine” of sexual compulsivity Al Cooper, PhD.

 “Sexual acting out online has been shown to manifest in similar off- line behavior. People who already were sex addicts find the internet accelerates their problem. Those who start in the on-line behavior quickly start to act out in new ways off- line” Watson, J. C. (2005). Internet addiction diagnosis and assessment implications for counselors. Journal of Professional Counseling: Practice, Theory, & Research, 33,

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 “Given the widespread availability of sexually explicit materials online, Internet sex addiction is the most common form of problem online behavior among users”. Young, K. S. (2008). Internet sex addiction: Risk factors, stages of development, and treatment. American Behavioral Scientist, 52,

 “88% of self-made sexual or suggestive images and videos posted by young people, often on social networking sites, are taken from their original online location and uploaded on to other websites.” October 22, 2012 – guardian.co.uk - Internet Watch Foundation  Statistics for inpatient is similar to gambling ratios: 3:1 males to females. Although it is becoming more like 50/50 ratio in the past few years.

 “ Addictive Love is a reliance on someone or something external to the self in an attempt to get unmet needs fulfilled, avoid fear or emotional pain, reenact trauma, solve problems, and maintain balance. The paradox is that addictive love is an attempt to gain control of our lives, and in so doing, we go out of control by giving personal power to someone or something other than ourselves”. Schaeffer, B. (2009). Is it Love or is it addiction?

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