Peace will come …why not nów! My aim is to serve Israel and the Palestinians to a turn around in their relationship: animo + content As a catalyst for this proposal: the possibility of much more (financial) help from the world when parties cooperate Abraham de Kruijf, mob , , Make a turn around in your relationship finally

Recursive reciprocity, central value: evenworthiness controverse solution, with a choice for quality of cooperation “To come up for your own interests” To extend negotiating with recursive reciprocity, including a search to deeper motives of “the other” With for sustained peace: “Obliged forgiveness and reconciliation” “carrot & stick conditionality…”: SANCTIONS: more money if all cooperate, loss of money if only one does not cooperate Way of negotiating, Abraham de Kruijf

What does acknowledgement mean to Israel (texts selected by AdK) - “We are always alone. …. No one is in our shoes”. Uzi Arad, National Security Adviser. - Recognition of Bitahon Atzmi = the most important NEED for Self-Security for our people - UN-resolutions threaten our self-security - We have a history of thousands of years, generations after generations, of being suppressed, suffering insecurity, expelled, and worse … - To not longer be victim, to be able to move from that. We have been chased by so many nations. - This is our land since so many years, and we have been exiled and suffered. Being killed, chased, de- pressed. Our religion was not accepted, they tried to erase this religion, we were not allowed to be. - People are always jealous on who we are, and accuse us for their problems. - During World War II the nazi’s tried to finish all the Jews in the world, many European countries let it happen. Our feeling is that only England and the United States helped us. - All we wanted is a safe place to live and we feel that wé are the only one that can protect us. - All our neighbors still want to kill us. Our existence feels always to be in risk. - We believe In trying to be morally, that is who we are. We have a moral culture. (That calls on critism from others, they project) But we came to a place where all the world sees us as the bad one, and they don’t see that we have no choice and are desperate of trying, nobody understands us. - “What did I do that you do this to me?” - All these experiences made us vulnerable, have hardened us: self-esteem, self-protection, self-righteousness? - “Also thou shalt not oppress a stranger: for ye know the heart of a stranger, seeing ye were strangers in the land of Egypt.” (Exodus 23:9) - We have fear from the past (when much fear and pain you defend yourself proactively) - Israel wants continued attention from the world. After Peace, maybe attacks restart? “Peace will come, why not now” - October Abraham de Kruijf

What does acknowledgement mean to Palestinians (texts selec- ted by AdK) - Recognition of NAKBA, the process of Palestinian Disposession since They control every aspect of our daily life!! In supermarkets even, by The Wall, … - Gaza closure (there is some improvement since 2010), Gaza war - (we have a historical / religious past with Israel as Palestinians/Filistinians) - Admittance that Israel never listens to us - Israel has around 5,000 Palestinians in jail including around 300 children and some persons held without charges (update: October 19, 2011) - To admit that Israel occupies our land and always invents something new - Israel denies room to live for our children, women and men - Through so much, and so many years of suppression and sometimes being desperate  we sometimes made an over reaction (which is/was not right of us) - The Sabra and Shatila massacre (1982), The Goldstein massacre in Hebron Mosque (1994), and many more massacres - Occupation / limitation of our Holy places - Prohibit us to travel to our dear places, family, friends (check points, Wall) - Over reaction / attack by Israel in Gaza war - Israel projects Holocaust and other pain on us, where we have nothing to do with their past - Israel never executes UN-resolutions - This is our country, even it is not formally our state, we do live here... ! - “What did I do that you do this to me?” - To end with a suggestion and to add on the phrase that Arabs would want to drive Jews into the sea … well, maybe later … to swim together on a nice day …. “Peace will come, why not now” - October Abraham de Kruijf

ECO (quality of relationship) diagram cAbraham de Kruijf, October 2011 Make appeal on evenworthines s of every human being Availability of concrete and workable peace scenario’s Carrot and stick mechanisms for sustainable peace Adhering to (international) law and justice

(From the site of Mohammed Dajani)

Sulha is the Arabic custom to stop a cycle of violence and bloodshed, the Arabic way of reconciliation. This means returning the rights of the injured, and the dignity of all. Now being offered for the first time for such a large conflict. (Think of the African Ubuntu). Slicha means: ‘Forgive me’, and is said by the offender. The offender is the one who takes the initiative. The Jaha is the necessary, neutral, mediating party. The Jaha intervenes and arranges the Sulha. The offender is willing to confess guilt, the process has to be prepared carefully. The maker of this Peace proposal offers himself to play a role in the Jaha. Note: there are also scenario’s where the offender does not say Slicha explicitely, but: a wooden pole, and a large white linen sheet are presented by the Jaha. In which the offended as well as the offender make knots. The white flag as symbol of forgiveness and protection of the injured parties. Israel and Palestinians, as well as Palestinians together, may forgive and reconcile. The five main Sulha-Slicha steps (summarized very shortly): Recognition of injures. Compensating damage After the offender says Slicha the offended party must forgive the ex-offender. The parties must publicly shake hands in order to declare that the violence is over. Sharing a meal: to show that the parties are welcome in each other’s homes and as a sign of peace.

Scenario Jaha: ‘Sul ha’ mediator Israël Pales- tinians Room, respect, for Acknowledgement of All AcknowledgementDayAcknowledgementDay 1947 Partit- ion Plan UN a. Day 1 09:00 hrs United Nations (sup- port of US, EU, World, NL) Opening by Jaha (Mediator) and United Nations. One has to be the First. United Nations? To use Sulha flag and/or to say: ‘Slicha’, ‘Forgive me’ to the Palestinians for “offending and injuring”. And/or to start with the white linen flag (page 9). Knowing that the 1947 decision was not meant as an offense. Confrontations Palestinians – Israel are partially caused by UN’s lack in in offering workable structures nor compensation, followed by mutual revenges of and disasters for the peoples. Now UN restores dignity, offers compensation. UN decided in 1947, though we choose not to look back to the detailed status of that decision, in the interest of the total solution now. The compensation by UN today can be combined with help that UN and countries give to the Palestinians. Day 1 12:00 Hamas Israel Emphasizes the sorrow of many of Hamas’ grass-roots: groups, small groups, individuals. Announces thinking of making peace with the former enemy. Libe- rates soldier Shalit. Because of evenworthiness of all humans wants liberation of 1 prisoner. As investment in the future. Invites Israel to liberate out of free will 450 prisoners more. “And we announce to be considering recognition of Israel....” And Fatah too, where necessary. Hamas offers trust to Israel. Opens Gaza borders, liberates out of free will many more prisoner(s)…. Hamas -Gaza- But now peace and prosperity with all parties! PLO -> Palestinian Authority ©

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© The Beginning Trust building needs guidance and leadership. And connecting generations. A Dutch saying: trust comes by foot and leaves by horse … One economical statement on the future: let economic results after peace go to the people and not to merely to project developers. 10